I mean I get the idea that divorce is a last resort, so in that sense it's a shame. If it's amicable then who cares.
Foler
we combined ours, but my brother and his wife are separate. They both work.
I know, but every time we fight over the silliest things. And lately the inequality in the relationship is getting to me.
Hmm. What if you were just a single guy with no prior divorce, 30's, had some money but it wasn't obvious to your potential partner? I mean I guess it all comes down to at the end of the day is, do you want to hedge against divorce? Is that what you're thinking?
What you have before is not part of the marriage. So it wont be part of the marriage assets, just a prenup listing what is yours priors and go from there.
The amount doesn't matter, you better forget that shit quick. You violated her trust, plain and simple. Circumstances might have mitigated this fight, but that would be my response to loaning $100 to a family member too.
In all seriousness, it is my call to decide who I give money too, specially some trivial amount. What trust I violated??
Well, I'm assuming, I guess incorrectly, that you share a sole bank account with the wife. If you have another account set aside with the understanding that you do with it as you please, then she has no ground on which to stand.
lurkingdirk
, if that's the case here, as this is basically his point.
Fibromyalgia huh? Yeah that's nothing more than a psychological condition for attention seekers.Unrelated to noodle thread:
I told my wife that she's a bummer to be around. In terms of wanting to have sex, this was a mistake. But it's the honest truth, this stupid fucking fibro is taking over every facet of her life. Her feet always hurt. Or her back. Or her head. She's always tired, taking naps whenever she can yet sleeping poorly during the night. I've lost count of the amount of daily supplements and pills she takes.
We have sex so infrequently that talking about not having sex is ruining chances at having sex. It's like some twisted nothavingsexception.
I just don't know what to do. The disease isn't her fault though I think she's handling it poorly. I want to fuck pretty much every day but wanting to fuck her is starting to fade. I used to daydream of things I'd want to do to her but I noticed that I haven't had those recently.
I mean, I do know what to do I just don't want to. Our needs in the relationship are no longer congruous, for whatever reasons or faults. It feels like bullshit to divorce someone because they can't putout enough due to a debilitating disease. But 40+ more years of this shit...ugh.
Well, I'm assuming, I guess incorrectly, that you share a sole bank account with the wife. If you have another account set aside with the understanding that you do with it as you please, then she has no ground on which to stand.
I agree with
I keep giving her attention but she keeps saying no!
I never said I liked that said. The wife and I share a bank account because I like full transparency.
I work full time making good money. After being an eternal student for 17 years; at 37 years old; she has her second actual job in her lifetime. It pays well(30hr), but its 3/4 of the time but it helps pays bills; but the lions share of the money is me. Everything is under both our names.
The fact she isn't running around to 20 different specialist having every test she can have done should say something.
You're acting like it's your money vs hers in this situation. Or you have a greater claim to it. It doesn't sound like it's an equality to me.
Can't say I disagree. If I have an issue that is causing my entire life and well being to be affected, I'm going to go to specialists at the very least.