Marriage and the Power of Divorce

Vitality_sl said:

I just use reverse psychology and tell her to stop going to the gym because I want that booty to get HUUUUGE.

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The ass is fat and the waist is small. It is why I married her. Just need to maintain these dimensions.

Tenks_sl said:

The ass is fat and the waist is small. It is why I married her. Just need to maintain these dimensions.

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Then get specific and tell her "when she goes to the gym next not to work on the booty cause you want it to stay universally colossal, yum yum".

Then smack it and go cook dinner, atleast that's what I do.

Vitality_sl said:

Then get specific and tell her "when she goes to the gym next not to work on the booty cause you want it to stay universally colossal, yum yum".

Then smack it and go cook dinner, atleast that's what I do.

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But she does all the cooking. Can I substitute cooking for "go upstairs and play video games"?

Olebass, what the fuck bro, you are barely middle aged and you are already resigning yourself to the dick graveyard. Your needs are just as relevant as hers and if she isn't willing to do anything for you, you gotta find someone who will man. Someone else said it, you are living with an older woman that cooks and cleans but you can't fuck (while telling you to find a girl), that's called a mother.

Tenks_sl said:

But she does all the cooking. Can I substitute cooking for "go upstairs and play video games"?

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IDK man, I haven't tested this, cooking usually curbs the booty-jab.

It's a give and take, not take take or give give.

If talking to your chick isn't easy, then being with her won't be either.

Thread is moving fast, but have you tried talking to her? As in, "Hey, You used to love going to the gym, but I noticed you haven't gone since the wedding. Is something wrong?"
Also try some outdoor activities to get her sparked again. Do you guys still go out on "dates"? Don't let the romance fall away, I guess is what I'm saying. If your new existence together is playing video games while she cooks, yea, I'm not surprised.

Lenas_sl said:

Olebass, what the fuck bro, you are barely middle aged and you are already resigning yourself to the dick graveyard. Your needs are just as relevant as hers and if she isn't willing to do anything for you, you gotta find someone who will man. Someone else said it, you are living with an older woman that cooks and cleans but you can't fuck (while telling you to find a girl), that's called a mother.

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Ya she wasn't always like that but that is what it has become. The hard part I have with it is she literally has no place to go or anyway to pay for it, which it wasn't always like that either. I cannot help but think it is intentional.
When I left TN in 2010 to come live back closer to family( Grandmother was ill and no one in family would take care of her ) she begged me not to move back. She had a temp job at Adesa in Nashville. She quit and moved with me, blaming me for it and still to this day says it is my fault she has no job or money now. I tell her well you didn't have to leave TN, her response is always of course she had no choice but to come back. That is when all the blowjobs and shit stopped too.
I mean we really don't ever fight but like 3x a year maybe, but when I mention leaving or whatnot she goes all batshit crazy screaming and threatening to shoot me and shit.

I feel for ya Olebass, I think you need to find a way to get out.

About the gym thing, I don't think that even warrants so much discussion, lol. You just have to know when to bring things up. My wife and I haven't been to the gym in a month but last night after I got done smashing her I just said, "wanna go to the gym tomorrow?," "sure," discussion over.

Dude that sounds like a really unhealthy relationship.

Here's my question: She cooks and cleans I guess, but what is she really bringing to the table?

Your "girlfriend" sounds like my mother. If my stepfather left her, she would be jobless, pennyless, no marketable skills with nowhere to go.

Lenas_sl said:

I feel for ya Olebass, I think you need to find a way to get out.

About the gym thing, I don't think that even warrants so much discussion, lol. You just have to know when to bring things up. My wife and I haven't been to the gym in a month but last night after I got done smashing her I just said, "wanna go to the gym tomorrow?," "sure," discussion over.

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Ours are usually like that too but it's more like:

"Fuck... here it comes.. ahh.. holy sh *gasp for air* holy shit I am out of shape.. we need to go to the gym"
"O-*cough* ok"

Meanwhile it was a 30 second smash session.

Xarpolis_sl said:

What none of you realize is that Lindz is actually a dude and is catfishing you all. "Love me! You know you want to..."

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With knees like that I'm ok with it.

See if your state allows 1 way recording of conversations. In some states, you alone knowing that you're recording a conversation, is all the consent you need.

Then while recording, bring up the whole leaving thing, and get her reaction on tape. Then go to a lawyer and say that you don't feel safe. It's kind of a pussy mentality way of doing things, but that's the world that we live in. And I can't see how you would be forced to continue to pay for her if that's the attitude. Let her go on federal disability and get the fuck out. That's a super toxic relationship (if that's what you want to call it) and you need to get out ASAP.

mkopec_sl said:

Yeah that sounds grim, bro. I mean me and the wifey are no longer porn stars like we used to be either, but I still manage to snag some 4-5 times a month. But no sex at all at 42? Fuuuuu. I could not do it , bro. whats her reasoning behind this? Is it physical? Mental? Does she have some strange on the side you dont know about? Shit definitely smells rank.

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She was always a bit odd about sex in the relationship to be honest, and never all that good at it. She didn't even know how to give a decent BJ until I told her what she was doing wrong but that was like 12 years back, she did finally improve on that.
She also had a VERY bad marriage before I met her and no she doesn't have any other relationships. She never goes anyplace and her phone is on my plan. Her reasoning in the past was she felt unattractive and couldn't get back into shape again due to her back/neck/hip issues. She is probably 135ish in weight, not the skinniest thing in the world but she is not a cow by any means and she looks more like 42 than 52 still.

I started going to like myfreecams last month just to get SOME damn interaction with women and she comes in the room to talk about house stuff or appointments or whatnot and doesn't even bat a eye seeing a woman on screen naked dancing around. That strikes me as the oddest most of all.

But ya, 18 years. I lose nothing if I leave, she loses everything. Wasn't always like that, when we met she made about twice as much as me and she was always a spending freak , but out of 18 years I've carried my weight in bills more than her except probably 5 months of it.

My biggest fear is not change as much as I've come so independent due to it( yes it is a unhealthy home stress wise due to it ) that I fear anyone I meet will not let me be what I've become. I go to work, out to eat, buy what I want and never get questioned about it. If I want to watch movies until 3am I do, if I want to play games I can. I never get harassed about it and I do pretty much what I want, although between running my business and keeping jobs going I don't really do anything. I can't between paying all the bills and insurances and food and shit I have to make 3500 a month to stay afloat and that takes a considerable amount of my time due to the way being self employed and taxes work.

It is a very bad shit sandwich as far as it all goes, but outside of the sex issue it is a good happy home. Sadly the sex issue is a major issue for me.

BrotherWu_sl said:

Olebass,

Dude. That sounds terrible.

You try to leave her too quickly, and that woman is going to cut your pecker off. You gotta get her back into a job and slowly ween her off your support.

Meanwhile, depending on your housing situation, you need to be working on an exit strategy.

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I rent a nice 3 bedroom with garage house from the person I was a co employee to years back and I do restoration work for his company( who is a restoration company ) about a 1/3rd of the year when I don't have jobs. He offered to evict her out several times.
She had a job I got her 3 weeks ago, she worked 2 weeks and told them she couldn't go full time( she DID have 2 mri's done last week and does have about 20 appointments lined up over the next month ) so they cut her down to part time and reduced pay and she decided to quit it. All this while I am robbing peter to pay paul while trying to finish up a hardwood job, a shower tile job and installing windows on 3 jobs to keep everything moving along. I don't use credit so it is always a struggle to pay all my personal bills and then float materials for jobs at the same time.

My brother died at 41 7 years ago and I am pretty sure that was the cause. We were partners back then so at least we floated each other as needed.