Khane
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Marriage and the Power of Divorce
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Frenzied Wombat
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No. Well, they all have that wet "I just stuck my dick in a bowl of spaghettios" feeling, but you get variations in tightness from "am I fucking something?" all the way to "holy shit, it's like a vice grip and I'm gonna blow my load in 30 seconds".
Blazin
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What is weird is any thought about it isn't driven by "greener grass" type thinking. It really is just a curiosity and I'm a pretty horny guy by nature (ie normal guy) and while I look at many other women and think "god I would kill that bitch if I had to put up with it everyday" I do feel like I'm missing something by never having been with anyone else. I think Tuco mentioned before he is only ever been with his wife and it not bothering him. I don't think I thought much about it in the first 10 years, but in my mid thirties I have thought about it more. I don't hide that from my wife she knows it's something I think about but she is awesome to me, if I had to put up with some of things like the other guys here in this thread I don't think I could stay faithful.
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chaos
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That perspective is helpful though, even if I am really just venting my frustration because there is no one I can really talk to about all of this. There are multiple guys who have experience with anxiety issues, which is something I still don't understand even after dealing with it for years now. And Olebass is like looking in a crystal ball if I don't do something about my situation.
Blazin
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I let people exaggerate the Ravenn stuff because it's funny, but my only mistake there was responding to her again after my wife told me to knock it off because she could tell she was just lying to get money, but had someone like Lori lived next door I'm willing to admit I could see myself getting into trouble, but it's unlikely because my normal way of stopping it is I just tell on myself to my wife so that I don't do something I regret. My wife is definitely my best friend, I have been faithful to my wife for 20 years and don't see that changing, but to say its not a struggle at times would be a lie.
Falstaff
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My marriage is great. Do we sometimes argue about stupid shit like money and whose turn it is to do X chore this week? Sure. Have things changed since we had a kid? Absolutely.
Tuco
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Can confirm. Maybe it's just because I don't know what I'm missing. I've thought about it and it just doesn't bother me.
Neki
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Your wife has no issues when you are owning noobs in the latest MMO war campaign? I mean, PRX is pretty hardcore and a lot of time commitment is needed whenever a war needs to be won. Does she game with you or just does her own stuff when you are on the computer?
Haast
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I'd be happy to privately discuss my experience with anxiety in more detail and/or your wife's experience with it. PM me if interested.
Noodleface
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I am happily married to a crazy person. With the move and new career I am fairly stressed, to say the least.
Vitality
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So what's the secret?
Do you just need to find a woman that's not an asswipe? And not be one yourself?
I feel like a good marriage doesn't just fall into your lap, you gotta make it into a good one. Right? It's like being good at anything in life, it takes daily work, research and a pinch of insanity. What do I know though.
A bad marriage happens when you let yourself go and forget about the daily work. Ignorance, neglect, and selfishness. Right?
Do you just need to find a woman that's not an asswipe? And not be one yourself?
I feel like a good marriage doesn't just fall into your lap, you gotta make it into a good one. Right? It's like being good at anything in life, it takes daily work, research and a pinch of insanity. What do I know though.
A bad marriage happens when you let yourself go and forget about the daily work. Ignorance, neglect, and selfishness. Right?
Xarpolis
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He's telling the truth.
There's the generic tight and loose examples, but also the wetness comes into play. Friction is what makes sex feel good. Some girls are SUPER wet, and as a result, there isn't much friction. Some girls are way too dry, and it can be painful as a result of that.
Then there's other things like depth. You'll feel like a man when you bottom out every time, but it'll hurt her and sex will suffer.
There's also the look, smell and taste. All of these things vary a lot. Vaginas are all unique snowflakes.
Enjoy.
Cad
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I think if you act reasonably and straightforward to a woman, they "might" realize you're not playing games with them (like a lot of people do) and actually act straightforward with you. They'll still think you're fucking with them or trying to manipulate them sometimes, but usually a reminder is all it takes.
Say:
Look, I'm not lying to you. I'm not telling you this just to get some other result. I'm just telling you what I think. And when I tell you what I think, its really what I think. It's not filtered to help your feelings, its not some idea I had to mess with you. It is the literal truth. If you can stop thinking 5 steps beyond what I'm saying and getting mad at me for something I didn't do and didn't mean, then we will have a lot better communication and relationship.
And then actually do that. Be honest with her. Tell her what you need. Listen when she talks and put in effort to do what she wants, too. Compromise sometimes (not all the time, but be a bro about it).
Women aren't crazy, they're just emotional, and they're used to getting treated like shit by men and having games played on them. If you can get past that and just be honest and not play games (and she realizes you're not) then women are normal people, mostly anyway.
tldr: treat people like normal people and how you'd want to be treated, and you get better treatment back.
P.S. treat her like a princess and spoil her rotten, and guess what you'll get? A spoiled rotten princess. Don't do that.