We had our kids at 27, 29, and 36... and I wish I'd had the third one sooner. People don't realize how nice your 40's can be with grown or almost grown children.
The person you have kids with is the most important decision of your life.
Yeah when men are older they've perfected the art of deluding themselves into thinking they aren't still attracted to the wrong kind of woman.Many of us are attracted to exactly the wrong kind of woman, early in life. I don't pretend to understand why, or how that changed. Is it even possible for it to change without getting burned out by crazy chicks first?
Society has put a huge burden on people by setting unattainable shit to have before getting kids : having travelled all over the world, having a house, 2 cars, income to pay for college, etc.. Few things have hurt society more than that. So people who think they can attain those goal, will wait until they reach them, and many women will end up having no kids because it's fucking hard to get there by 35.This is the thing; you could've had kids younger with less money and you'd be saying the exact same things. Humans have been having kids when they lived in caves and hunted/gathered. You (and I, and all of us) could have had a good life making a low wage with a kid because you had the willpower and determination to do whatever it took to provide a life for them. That is all it takes, understanding that your wants and desires will be tempered by your duty to provide.
Society has put a huge burden on people by setting unattainable shit to have before getting kids : having travelled all over the world, having a house, 2 cars, income to pay for college, etc.. Few things have hurt society more than that. So people who think they can attain those goal, will wait until they reach them, and many women will end up having no kids because it's fucking hard to get there by 35.
Reality is that your kids happiness, especialy when small, doesn't depend much on how much money you have, the thresold is rather low : a roof, meals. Then it's a matter of having parents attentions, friends / families around.
And by the time they're teen, now you have more ressources, when it actually matters more.
Did I rez this thread? I've forgotten my own loreWell, if Noodle had kids earlier this thread wouldn't have been resurrected!
Silver linings!
Recently 41, recently-ish single after a ~6 year thing that I thought was gonna be my last.
How boned am I in terms of finding a woman within 10 years of my age that isn't a complete wreck and/or has multiple kids already.
Do I just give up and start banging 22 year olds?
It's about when I became single.
It was a great year. If you've got your shit together, it's like shooting fish in a barrel. The tables flip pretty hard in your late 30s and early 40s for men, and you can filter out whomever you want.
That being said, dating sites didn't end up working for me, and my new relationship ended up being organic
If you are content to entertain yourself and rub one out occasionally when bar skanks are not available, then its pretty bleak out there. If you dont want to be alone, you can go bang maid route or go hard in the paint. Bail on any red flags and don't just settle because your lonely.Yea I had a brief look at Hinge and ruled it out almost immediately.
Unfortunately that means I have to leave my house and meet people
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I have a friend that's just like this but he doesn't realize it. He bends over backwards for his 2 boys but complains to the group about what his lady gets for her son. I just listen and sometimes ask if he would do that for his son if the roles were reversed.Our two best friend couples are both remarried and have blended families, and they have BOTH come to us with "he says my kids don't need X Y Z and then spoils his kid" type problems in the last 2 weeks.
I think I'd rather get a younger chick with no kids than try to wife up a single mom. Those blended family problems are somewhat intractable.
Our two best friend couples are both remarried and have blended families, and they have BOTH come to us with "he says my kids don't need X Y Z and then spoils his kid" type problems in the last 2 weeks.
I think I'd rather get a younger chick with no kids than try to wife up a single mom. Those blended family problems are somewhat intractable.
Our two best friend couples are both remarried and have blended families, and they have BOTH come to us with "he says my kids don't need X Y Z and then spoils his kid" type problems in the last 2 weeks.
I think I'd rather get a younger chick with no kids than try to wife up a single mom. Those blended family problems are somewhat intractable.