Marriage and the Power of Divorce

Noodleface_sl said:

How can you be depressed when God has gifted you with such glorious titties?

I believe I have now crossed the line and am willing to accept whatever punishment is deemed necessary. Everyone wanted to say it.

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Khane_sl said:

Daelos... your sex life never slowed down and you even had morning sex 12 years into the relationship the day she ended it? Your ex is kinda fucked up if that's all true. Like she was purposefully pulling the wool over your eyes. You mentioned she said she was attracted to a colleague. In other words, she had been sleeping with him for x amount of time and was such a pathological liar that she made sure to keep sleeping with you so you wouldn't catch on. Most people can't pull that off, hormones and emotion can't usually be faked like that unless the person is practically a sociopath.

Goddamn I feel for you man.

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The Master_sl said:

No... women like to encourage competition between sperm. Most of them will want to immediately go home and sleep with their partner if they just cheated. That is what our hormones will tell us to do. Men, on the flip side, will try to keep a woman around as long as possible after sleeping with them if they suspect competition. Ask any clinical sexologist.

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Khane_sl said:

Maybe in theory but in practice, in every relationship I've known where it ended because of cheating, it was basically void of sex. I can actually understand the theory behind it, and it seems sound to me (at least in a man's case, haven't studies shown it's more about the physical aspect of it for men and more emotional for women when it comes to cheating?) but it's hard to believe someone has that much gall. Cheat on your partner with someone and then immediately go home and screw them as sloppy seconds? Damn...

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The Master_sl said:

In theory and in practice. One in ten children born is not born to the supposed Father. Approximately half of all LTRs involve one partner cheating. I'm not talking about relationships ending, I'm talking about cheating in general. And, yes, relationships often become void of sex, see my earlier post on the Coolidge Effect, and one person cheats and that ends things, but the reasons are different. I should also add that women dating multiple men or who are in poly relationships exhibit the same behavior. It is "the way they are wired" so to speak. Not that excuses immoral behavior, I am just discussing the science.

No, studies haven't shown that at all. That is pure pop psychology. Women cheat because they think they can either trade up or pick up superior genes that they can then raise safely with a more loyal mate. Guys who are attractive to multiple women are also very risky to raise children with, hence this duality of women wanting a "safe" guy but having sex with the "jerks." Guys cheat to spread their genes and will basically do so at any opportunity where they believe they won't get caught, they find the woman attractive, and see no evidence of disease. I'm discussing humans and basically all other primates. Most of the work on this was actually done on primates very extensively before anyone dared to apply the logic to humans and found basically the same conclusions. And this is circa 1970/1980 stuff. We've come a lot further than that in our understanding of sex. Like this new wrinkle where semen actually has female hormones that can force ovulation.

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Khane_sl said:

Eh, while it's not the case I like to think we are capable of overcoming our "instincts". It all makes sense when explained that way but it still doesn't make it easier to believe.

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