Adebisi
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Doc just gave me a couple Lorazepam to take 30 minutes before the procedure. After taking them the (male) doctor could've sucked my dick and I wouldn't have cared.
I recommend the pills.
Marriage and the Power of Divorce
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Guest, it's time once again for the massively important and exciting FoH Asshat Tournament!
Go here and give us your nominations!Who's been the biggest Asshat in the last year? Give us your worst ones!
I recommend the pills.
It really saddens me to hear this same selfish narrative over and over. "My relatively minor discomfort is more important than your major discomfort.......cuz I'm a boy." And yes, I had a vasectomy so my wife wouldn't have to go in and have TL or keep taking BC and dealing with side effects much less acute than yours. It was silly to say that she should put up with some relatively minor issues for the next 20 years when I could spend 15 minutes in stirrups and a weekend of quality time with a bag of frozen peas.
That's not to say that women aren't just as asinine about their lady parts. A friend of mine is dead because in the very early stage she went against the advice of two physicians and didn't want to get a mastectomy....because that's what made her a woman. I don't think the kids she left behind defined her by her breasts.
Izo
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Onoes
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Yeah, getting a vasectomy was the equivalent of donating blood. Seriously, man up.
iannis
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Weird. Condoms have never bothered me.
They give you an excuse to get right up afterwards and wash your junk. Without them the ten minutes after can be significantly more funky. And I don't mean the George Clinton kind. More like the Bill Clinton kind.
Without is good too though.
They give you an excuse to get right up afterwards and wash your junk. Without them the ten minutes after can be significantly more funky. And I don't mean the George Clinton kind. More like the Bill Clinton kind.
Without is good too though.
Khane
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Have you ever had a long stint of condomless sex on the regular? It's hard to start using those little fuckers again once you've stopped.
BrotherWu
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Too true. They're inconvenient. Sex doesn't feel as good. Latex smells horrible. Purely loathsome.
Buttttt.....still better than taking care of an unexpected dependent for 22 years.
Khane
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Well I don't think anyone will argue that. But in the midnight hour, in the heat of passion and alcohol fueled vigor, good sense is asleep at the wheel.
Noodleface
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I went raw the first few times I slept with my now wife. I never felt good about that decision.
Khane
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Noodleface
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No doubt, it was coincidentally the first time I went that way so it was pretty mind-blowing. After a few times I just decided it wouldn't be worth it.
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Some gold I found on /r/theredpill
Saw this in r/relationships. Was able to copy the text before it got deleted. I guess she couldn't handle the heat people were giving her hahaha
TLDR - Before my vacation i [F24] asked my boyfriend [M25] to open our relationship temporarily. Now hes regularly having sex with some girl in our apartment and im heartbroken
Im pretty fucking upset rigth now , Im going to do my best to explain everything thats happened.
Ive had an extended holiday (3 months) planned with my best friend (Tory) for years. We have always talked about it and my boyfriend (Daniel) knew we were going to do it. She finally finished college this December and we put our plan into action.
Another friend (Michelle) went on a similar trip years ago. She and her friend both had longterm boyfriends at the time, and they both ended up cheating on the trip. A while later their friendship fell apart, and they both revealed each others infidelity. It got ugly. Michelle and her boyfriend broke up, her (ex)friend stayed with her boyfriend but from the sounds of it their relationship was severely damaged.
At first i thought they were absolutely horrible for doing it, but after talking to her i could see their side of things - months of no sexual contact/release, being in a party atmosphere, of course there would be temptation. She's young, attractive and gets lots of male attention. The encounter was purely sexual, she was drunk, and they used protection. The next day the boy was out of her life completely and that was it. I vehementely disagreed with doing all this behind her boyfriends back though.
Talking with Michelle about a month ago, she asked what im going to do about Daniel. I honestly hadnt thought about it like that, i felt like i could easily go 3 months without having sex. And id never want to betray Daniel's trust. But Michelle made a good case for 'opening' our relationship while i was away - she said (paraphrasing): "Of course you love Daniel. But traveling is about experiencing new things, and that includes sex. Youll say it wont happen now, but you just have to trust me that once youre their youll feel different. Daniel is going to wonder either way if youre fucking other guys on your trip. Just be upfront with him and see what he says."
And so that night i talked to him about it. I explained that i wasnt going to be looking to fuck every guy i see that im attracted to, and that my love for him was as strong as ever, but i also wanted to be able act freely and party like other girls my age. It was more contingency if anything - i dont plan on fucking other guys, but if it happens it happens. A nigth of partying half the world away with people ill never see again shouldnt ruin what we had here. Id insist on using protection. And of course he would have the same opportunity as me, he would be able to freely see girls if he chose to. He wasnt happy, but said he understood. He said "Youve tied my hands. If i tell you i forbid it, ill still be worried if youre being true to your word. By expressing that this is what you want, theres nothing i can do to stop you".
Daniels a bit of a homebody - he goes out with his friends on occassion, but most nights he spends in our apartment playing video games or watching netflix. Given his lifestyle i wasnt overly worried hed be hooking up with all these random girls.
Me and Tory left on February 17. Its been eye-opening and a ton of fun. But its also been stressful. We havent done any partying, we talked to some guys one night but nothing came of it. Tonight i checked my email at an internet cafe and there was a message from Kay, a sweet old lady who lives above us in our apartment complex.
"I have debated for days whether to send this to you and potentially ruin your vacation. But you deserve to know the truth. Daniel has been seeing another woman since you left. There is no doubt that he is seeing her, she has come over most nights and I have heard them being intimate. You deserve so much better. I'm so sorry."
I thought i could handle this open relationship arrangement. I cant. This message shattered my heart into a million pieces. This isnt what i intended at all, i wanted the freedom to act in the moment. He is taking this as a free pass to regularly fuck some girl. And i have a feeling i know exactly who it is, a girl from his work who was always overly flirty with him.
I regret ever taking Michelles advice and opening my stupid mouth. I dont want him to fuck other girls, i dont want to fuck other guys. I want this slut out of my apartment NOW!!! I am a fucking wreck and need other womens opinions. Tory has been so unhelpful, basically telling me to grow up and that i got what i asked for. No shit?! People arent allowed to change their minds or regret their decisions?!
How do I go about contacting him and expressing that this needs to stop NOW without coming across like a crazy hypocritical bitch? And let him know that i will be 100% faithful on my trip? I dont even know how i am going to look at him when i get home. I am beyond hurt, this feels so wrong and so sick.
I am going to bed now to try and get some sleep, i will check and respond to all comments tomorrow morning. Thank you
EDIT: guys, seriously stop it. I know i fucked up, i brought it all on myself. Kicking me while im down isnt helping. Im not asking for your opinion on my stupid selfish decision, im asking the best way to approach this and fix it.
Tory says i should email him saying "what i said before about opening our relationship was a mistake. I havent slept with anyone here and i dont want to. Youre my parter and i dont want to compromise what we have. Please be faithful as I will be to you. I love you." Simply dont tell him about Kay's email or that i know there's another woman. Thoughts?
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