@Leo's post (fuck forgot to look what page this thread was on)-
Yeah your already done at this point. All you are doing is propping up a corpse. How "close" were you with this other person in chat logs? My spidey sense tells me that there is a good chance she banged some overseas exotic dong and was looking for an out when she sleuthed your internet logs. You try and fix things, but women remember shit like that and hold that bitterness forever. Not a fun five years, I would imagine.
You made several errors here. First, you got emotionally involved with someone who is not your wife. You did it while she was on an extended work related separation from you. Then you kept chat logs of the activity for god knows what reason in a place your wife was able to locate them. Then you conceived a kid while nursing a marriage in a tailspin. Oh, and you put your family members who also have marriage issues ahead of your wife while this attempted reconciliation was going on. That's a lot of unforced errors to recover from.
Staying together is just going to fuck up your kid massively, but not having a dad and an absent doctor mom pretty much means she is headed for the pole at some point anyhow. Even if you assume the kid is yours, the kid's best shot would be for your soon to be ex wife to settle in with a stable non-asshole new guy who does a decent job parenting her. If you stay together "for the kid", your all going to be miserable and the wife will just fill her ears with man-hate focused on how you jacked it one time on Skype a decade ago with some foreign whore. That's if the kid is yours.
I think Big P and Gav are correct, though. One month before the bun is out of the oven and she is trying to get you out of the picture? Someone in her field with all the obvious away from home work probably has ample chances to fuck around, plus in her brain she probably figured it was justified since you were flirting with someone online ages ago. She might even know it is someone else's kid and is looking for an exit that keeps her infidelity secret. Women don't just dump fathers that close to term, unless something else is going on.
In my view, the marriage is fucked anyhow so now it is about minimizing the collateral damage. I would search her computer and maybe phone for evidence of communication with a possible baby daddy. Then based on what you find, I would get the DNA test done. If there were any odd fluxes in your sex life 8 months ago, I would get the test done anyhow. Worst case scenario, you will get divorced, lose time with the kid, and have the ex poison the kid against you for being an asshole in a family of assholes. This is going to happen anyhow, so you may as well get the test done. If it is some other dudes fuck trophy, then you hammer her in divorce court and Red Pill it for a year while you get your life back together.
