Marriage and the Power of Divorce

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lindz

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I don't think anyone is even saying the idea of an open relationship is a terrible one. At least for myself, I don't feel like what he is looking for is solved with one. But it doesn't really matter what we think. If he thinks it will help the issues he's been having with relationships, give it a try. There is nothing wrong with experimenting to figure out what works for you.
 
Gravy

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Khane is a terrible person. There, someone has said it now.

I don't actually believe that, but it had to be said.
 
chaos

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Khane_sl said:
Well, I suppose I should get used to people thinking I'm selfish because I want something they deem as inappropriate or uncouth. And I'm sure I'm going to get a lot of that.

By the way, technically speaking monogamy is more akin to keeping a "bangmaid" than an open relationship is. You kinda got your wires crossed there.
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I'm not judging you or calling you selfish bro. It's your life, if you are happy then I'm happy for you. And the bangmaid thing was just a joke. And a secret wish...

I'm just saying, you were the one that brought up getting fucked over. That can happen literally any time anywhere with anyone. I just got done with one of my old bosses trying to fuck me over. I've heard stories of people's parents fucking them over. It isn't exclusive to marriage, not by a long shot. Even the legal wrangling to end a relationship thing, not exclusive to marriage. If a woman wants to fuck you up bad enough she can do it, any woman. Or man too. So it is important to pick the right people to surround yourself with, and it is important to build trust and be honest with those people. If that is what you're doing with this girl, good for you, because waiting a year or two would be a huge mistake.
 
chaos

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Probably not, the results would probably be more Arnold Schwarzenegger than Spanglish. There is no escaping the gaping maw of eternity as it bears down upon me.
 
Leadsalad

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What I can't reconcile is that for how much Khane disparages the red pill philosophy, he is espousing their ideals to a T.
 
Soygen

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Leadsalad_sl said:
What I can't reconcile is that for how much Khane disparages the red pill philosophy, he is espousing their ideals to a T.
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Nowthisis most definitely the worst thing said about Khane so far. Joking aside, I totally disagree with that assertion.
 
iannis

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chaos_sl said:
Probably not, the results would probably be more Arnold Schwarzenegger than Spanglish. There is no escaping the gaping maw of eternity as it bears down upon me.
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Ah, don't be so quick. That maid has something going on. I mean she pulled Arnie away from Maria Schriver.

Maria Schriver.
 
Haast

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Alright online daters, I could use advice. Let's say you were messaging with 2 women, and one flaked while the conversation went well with the other. So you went out with Good Conversation and things went well. You go out on several dates with her. Now, Flaked messages you back out of the blue.

Is there a good way to tell Flaked you need to see where things are going with Good Conversation without completely alienating her? I mean, it's early. Good Conversation may be hiding batshit insanity, and perhaps Flaked really was busy at work (the alleged reason for flaking).

Oh, and inb4 "fuck both of them at the same time" or something having to do with plates and murder.
 
McCheese

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Flaking out is a deal breaker for me. "Busy at work" is a bullshit excuse and it's not like it takes much time to send a message, so if it were me I'd just ignore/forget about the flaky chick. I ran into this a couple times in online dating and never regretted ignoring the chick.
 
Arch

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I'm with McCheese on this, there is literally no reason to not send a message of some sort we are way too connected as a society for that shit to fly. That said, if you really want to keep the option open you don't say shit to either one of them because it's not their business.

You aren't exclusive with either one so, trust me, don't say shit. If you want to see both schedule around it. Chances are it will never become an issue and if you feel it is reaching a point that it may become an issue you can address it then (I would advise not telling the one you are interested in and just dropping the other if it came to that).

There will be plenty of things that can become a thing,do not generate them youself.
 
Noodleface

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Until you're exclusive you are allowed to go on dates with other people and must assume that these women are doing the same.
 
Haast

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I worded that poorly. When I said flaked, I really meant the conversation kind of dropped off. We agreed to meet up, but couldn't find a time that worked. I was liking the conversation with the other girl better, so I didn't make much effort to find a time, nor did she (until now). So flaked is a poor choice of words.

As far as dating both of them, I would say with relative certainty the girl I've been out with several times isn't seeing someone else now. I don't have a ton of free time, and I'd rather spend it currently with the girl I've been seeing. We aren't exclusive though, this is true.

Perhaps a quick "things got busy for me lately, maybe later" message? I don't know.
 
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Arch_sl said:
I'm with McCheese on this, there is literally no reason to not send a message of some sort we are way too connected as a society for that shit to fly. That said, if you really want to keep the option open you don't say shit to either one of them because it's not their business.

You aren't exclusive with either one so, trust me, don't say shit. If you want to see both schedule around it. Chances are it will never become an issue and if you feel it is reaching a point that it may become an issue you can address it then (I would advise not telling the one you are interested in and just dropping the other if it came to that).

There will be plenty of things that can become a thing,do not generate them youself.
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This is the right advice.

Don't bother with a things got busy for me message. If she "flaked" than you can just do the same thing. If you decide you wanna try again with her later, then just get back into it. You don't owe her any explanation.
 
Leadsalad

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Nester_sl said:
Not really, he seems to respect women and does not intend to put them down to increase his own power.
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He wants options (aka the ability to spin plates) and he's worried about commitment coming from a position of having assets.

Not all of red pill is focused on being a complete douchenozzle to everyone of the opposite sex.

Whatever, you're akin to reading the cliffs about gamergate on some anti-gg site and believing that at face value.

Edit: holy fuck does this iPhone autocorrect make no fucking sense 3/4ths of the time correcting shit to the wrong word.
 
Lejina

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I'd say give the conversation dropper a date and see how things goes in person. Chatting online is generally a waste of time really and you can see if there's any connection a lot faster in person.

If she flakes you on an actual date, yeah, drop her. But if she just switched off while sending messages back and forth it's because you kept that up for too long. Messages with online dating often involve repeating the same stuff over and over in similar conversations with different people, that shit can get tedious and boring fast, which is why you need to get an actual date asap.
 
Haast

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The Ancient_sl said:
This is the right advice.

Don't bother with a things got busy for me message. If she "flaked" than you can just do the same thing. If you decide you wanna try again with her later, then just get back into it. You don't owe her any explanation.
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Fair enough. My one beef with this is that she hasn't ignored any of my messages; like I mentioned, it tailed off due to mutual lack of effort to reschedule. So it feels rude to ignore a direct question from her.

For those who haven't followed the thread, I'm new to and probably incompetent at online dating. So there will likely be more dumb questions coming. And maybe herpes.
 
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