Marriage and the Power of Divorce

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Haast

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Lejina_sl said:
I'd say give the conversation dropper a date and see how things goes in person. Chatting online is generally a waste of time really and you can see if there's any connection a lot faster in person.
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Fair enough. We did figure out we went to college together in conversation and she looks familiar. I would kind of like to know why.
 
Fifey

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When girls from the internet just "drop off" it's because they are more into another guy then when that doesn't work out, they hit up people they dropped earlier. You can either go with it or not, either way expect it to happen again.
 
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fifey_sl said:
When girls from the internet just "drop off" it's because they are more into another guy then when that doesn't work out, they hit up people they dropped earlier. You can either go with it or not, either way expect it to happen again.
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Yep, this is what I assumed. I'm sure work was busy... in addition to this.
 
Nester

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I hate the word busy, It just means I really did not care enough to prioritize this shit over other shit.
 
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It's easier for a woman to say "sorry I was busy" than "I stopped chatting with you because I lost interest due to another guy I had a funny conversation with and he asked me out at the right time. Turns out he smells of grease and isn't so funny in person. I figure you're a better option, where were we at again?"
 
Haast

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Lejina_sl said:
It's easier for a woman to say "sorry I was busy" than "I stopped chatting with you because I lost interest due to another guy I had a funny conversation with and he asked me out at the right time. Turns out he smells of grease and isn't so funny in person. I figure you're a better option, where were we at again?"
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I'm with you: we know what "busy" means, but it sounds nicer than what really happened.

I'm fine with it, I'm just not going to wait on it. If it works out later, cool.
 
Frenzied Wombat

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Never buy the "busy" excuse. The two rules of "I'm busy":

1) If she says she's busy on a certain day/time, but doesn't immediately counter with an alternative date that works for her, she's not interested.
2) A girl that's interested will ALWAYS make it easy for you to date her. If after the first or second date she's hard to pin down, she either isn't interested or has something equal or better in the works, and is doing her best to keep you in a holding pattern as backup.
 
Haast

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Heh, in short form communication, it's easy to leave out details. So here we go:

We agreed we should meet. I put out a couple of dates I could do, they didn't work for her but she countered with other dates, they didn't work for me. We decided to figure it out the next week. I got distracted, and apparently so did she. Likely, both of us were seeing other people. I figure I could easily say I'm tied up with work and the holidays with family in town this week and push it off for later. Seems like a good open-ended way to leave it, in the not-unlikely case things crater with the other girl. If nothing comes of it, no loss.

Thoughts?
 
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I guess I don't get the resentment towards "busy". It seems obvious in online dating we are all meeting people regularly, and timing doesn't always work out. Is it really that bad to leave things open-ended and pick it back up later if that's how it works out?

Seems odd to hold others to a "now or never" standard while I am "busy" when necessary. I mean, I more or less "I'm busy'd" her by not re-countering dates and letting it slip while I went out with the other girl. Am I supposed to hold it against her that whatever she tried didn't work out? Shit happens and everyone has a past. It's not like she blew me off after a date, we've never met. Well, maybe in college we did...
 
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Well, I think this situation got resolved for me.

I hadn't responded, but I just got a text from the "busy" girl saying it looks like I am dating her friend, and wished me good luck. So unless that is some sort of mind game, apparently I managed to meet two girls that actually know each other. Random.

EDIT: we exchanged several texts afterwards. I don't think it's a mind game. So random. Good thing I didn't text her back something that sounded like I was blowing off the other girl, right?
 
Frenzied Wombat

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My GF shows me FB messages she gets from bisexual chicks she barely knows, or are "friends of friends", asking her is she wants to fuck or have a threesome, thinking it's funny. I've had to tell her no, it's not funny, it's just fucking torture unless you agree to it. Boy did that cause a fight the first time-- "what, I'm not enough for you?".
 
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Complete this sentence. If one pussy is good then two pussies are "____".

Of course women tend to be immune to such direct logical proofs.
 
Frenzied Wombat

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Iannis_sl said:
Complete this sentence. If one pussy is good then two pussies are "____".

Of course women tend to be immune to such direct logical proofs.
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The irony is, I kept digging myself a deeper hole that first argument. In reaction to the "am I not enough?" question, I said "that's not it at all, I just think seeing another chick go down on you would be hot". That didn't go over well, and doubled down with "I don't consider it cheating if it doesn't have a penis. You can bang as many women as you want". That opened a whole new world of pain for me that night.
 
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