Marriage and the Power of Divorce

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Moogalak

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Don't misinterpret the man, im sure he means "lets him" in the sense that she doesn't wail like a banshee when the pc comes on. If you haven't dated a Texan before, you can't understand their independence and strong will!
 
Himeo

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lindz_sl said:
Yeah I'm talking about BrotherWu's wife's level of crazy. Not full blown knife you in your sleep crazy. I probably wouldn't try physical contact with that.
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So, average woman level of crazy.

Because all women are like that.



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You of course are right, as you all are. There's no excuse for putting up with a screaming banshee. I guess the main reason why I've held on is that with the exception of these "hulk rage" sessions when she drinks, she's otherwise normal. I convinced myself if I could get the occasional drinking issue under control, things would be ok, but the reality is that she still slips every few months, and simply the "looming specter" of having to deal with this craziness has made marriage an impossibility in my eyes. She's basically an 8 that lets me play video games, smoke weed to deal with my insomnia, is as much of a homebody as I am, isn't religious, isn't looking to take early retirement at my expense, and doesn't drag me to every work/social event she's involved in.And yes, I realize these are not necessarily "good" reasons to keep a relationship together lol, but finding women that are "cool" in this way (especially in Dallas) is pretty tough.
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It's hard to find a woman that will treat you better? That's why you're allowing yourself to be abused? Because it's too hard to find someone else? How many hundreds of thousands of women live within 30 minutes of you? You aren't stuck with her.

You're rationalizing the abuse. You've buried yourself so deep in bullshit that you don't know which way is up.

You deserve to be with someone that makes you happy. You are not happy. You have a problem and the solution is to kick the cunt to the curb.

Jesus bro, stand up for yourself.

You want to know what the fuck is really going on? You're raising another man's child. That's what's going on. You're trying to fix her. This is a noble instinct to have, and it's exactly why she's a parasite on your life. She's got you figured out. She knows exactly what she's doing and it will continue to escalate because she won't stop, ever. You cannot make her happy. You have NO obligation to this chick. She should only be in your life if she adds value, and from what you've described she's a net loss.

Cut your losses and let someone else fix her. Or, better yet, let her fix herself.
 
Ameraves

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Fuck me! That will teach me to try and type up a long post without saving it in Word or Notepad or something first.

Spilled my beer and had to clean it up. Fucked up my post and deleted it. If I am feeling up to it once sober, I will try and post it all out again.

The long and short of it. My wife went to see her best friend, who is a bitch, and I am feeling more insecure than ever.

I seriously do not know what to do at this point. My wife came back, after having "a talk" with this friend of hers (who has already been through a divorce).

I simply told her that I want divorce 100% off the table. That we focus on the positive in our relationship, and deal with the challenges as they come. We have a family, and while yes there are very particular challenges to our marriage, I am not willing to even discuss us splitting up at this point. She said "okay" and not much has been said since.

Fuck me I don't know what to do. I am doing my best to simply stay as positive as possible and be as strong as I can, and continue to support my family and focus on the positive. Inside it is eating me up because I fear all she can think about is how I can't do X Y or Z, whereas a "normal" man could do those things for her. So I feel like a pussy, but refuse to discuss this with her as I am afraid that will show weakness.

Fuck.

Stay tuned, I will try and post more later. I am a bit (totally) inebriated at the moment which is giving me the feelings of being open to talk. So they may all disappear tomorrow.
 
Kirun

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I'm afraid you might be wasting your time attempting to "save" something which can't be saved. Whether she's considering leaving because she feels like she's "wasting" her life/good years with somebody physically disabled, or her friends are getting into her head with the "rah! rah! Girl power!" bullshit, if she isn't going to commit, you need to cut your losses and move on. Obviously there are likely a bunch of details you left out by deleting your original post, but the fact that she keeps waffling back and forth makes it really seem like she isn't "all in" with your relationship, and coming from a spouse, that should be a deal breaker.
 
iannis

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It seems to me that while there may be things which a "normal" man physically could do which you personally cannot, the price we exact for those services may possibly be outside the realm of her experience or imaginings.

She may under value humility, and be under some misconception about "normal" men.

I don't think that's an argument that you can make though, unfortunately. It's the sort of argument that her female bestie needs to make. But apparently her female bestie also doesn't understand what utter assholes we are.
 
Onoes

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On a bright note, I've now been seeing the same girl for a month, and I'm pretty much head over heals for her. It's only been a month but I'm really thinking this is going to end up a long term thing. Fingers crossed.
 
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