Marriage and the Power of Divorce
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You rang and I cometh.oh noes
Had my first little tiff thing with the girlfriend tonight. I spent the night with her last night, and let her know this morning that I tossed and turned all night, and was probably going to just crash tonight. Well, we text some this afternoon and she ended the conversation saying she really wants me to come spend the night again tonight, and I just didn't respond, partly because I was busy at work, and partly because I just kind of wanted to come home, shower, maybe watch a movie, and sleep in my own bed. So, I arrive back into town about 7 and give her a call, she asks me to come over, I tell her I really need to eat and shower. She asks me to come over after, and I cave and tell her I'll stay the night but I would be a while. I go home and do those things, and end up talking with a friend for 30 or 40 minutes as well. I arrive at her house at 9:20. She opens the door looking grumpy and half asleep and just turns immediately and goes to her bed. I walk in, strip to my boxers, and climb into bed with her. I spoon her and try to talk a little but she is like complete rejection body language, totally not her normal behaviour.
I ask her whats up, and she tells me she is pretty riled up, that she wasn't expecting me to make her wait almost 3 hours, and if I was coming over this late why even bother. I apologised, said I obviously didn't mean to upset her, and that I worked 12 hours and then had to do a few things before I could hang out. She was just kind of grumpy and "I don't give a shit"y about the whole thing. I laid there in silence for a minute and said "This is pretty much the opposite of how I expected tonight to go. I thought you were going to be thrilled to see me, the fact I came over to spend the night with you again." and she went "Yeah, well, I wanted to hang out, now I'm upset and can't even sleep."
I laid there for maybe 2 more minutes in silence then said "Ok, well, I'm sorry you feel that way, I'm going to go." and she said "fine, go" but all sad and pouty. I got up, got dressed, I said "I hope you get some sleep, goodnight" and leaned over and kissed her forehead, and then I left.
We've been dating for about 6 weeks now though, and this is pretty much the first bit of crazy she's displayed, so thats good. It really wasn't even that big a deal, I just had a long day and didn't want to deal with petty ridiculous bullshit. Annoying.
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Is 6 weeks considered a blessing for this kind of thing to you now? You're so used to it only taking a few days that 6 weeks is an eternity?
You've got to raise your standards. I'm probably on the other end of the spectrum and need to lower mine, but you've certainly got to raise yours.
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#1 problem in relationships, by far, is one person making demands/decisions/whatever without considering the other person. It happens all the time over the smallest of things and Onoes' story was a classic example of it(for both parties).
I've come to accept that it will continue happening, both myself or my wife as instigators, because it's just plain human nature. Instead of getting butthurt about it, I just realize what it is and try not to get mad about it. It's a whole lot easier to get to used to this behavior than it is to change it. Change, in this case, is REALLY hard.
I've come to accept that it will continue happening, both myself or my wife as instigators, because it's just plain human nature. Instead of getting butthurt about it, I just realize what it is and try not to get mad about it. It's a whole lot easier to get to used to this behavior than it is to change it. Change, in this case, is REALLY hard.
It took me a long while to realize that with my wife, and probably most women in general, foreplay starts for them hours before actually grinding uglies. I have to put in the time and just hang out on the couch with her, talk to her and do all that stuff to put her in the mood. She isn't like a guy where we don't care when a chick shows up at our house as long as she'll get on me I don't give a fuck. It is different for girls. Sure she wanted to sleep with you that night but she also wanted to see you. The offer to spend the night wasn't just a free pass to PussyTown it is because she genuinely enjoys spending time with you.
I don't know if that is crazy behavior by her at all. Clingy and somewhat needy sure. But not crazy. You treated her like a booty call and she didn't want to be one.
I don't know if that is crazy behavior by her at all. Clingy and somewhat needy sure. But not crazy. You treated her like a booty call and she didn't want to be one.
