Khane
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Has anyone in the history of earth ever regretted something that worked out exactly as they had hoped?
Marriage and the Power of Divorce
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opiate82
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If a dude banged my wife who didn't know she was married I would probably buy him a beer to thank him for showing me the truth about my wife.
If a dude banged my wife who did know she was married but didn't know me, I would make him buy me a beer while I thanked him for showing me the truth about my wife.
If a dude banged my wife who knew she was my wife and knew me, yeah that dude is probably getting punched in the face. Or more likely I will just talk about how I want to punch him in the face with all my friends who are hopefully buying me beer to console me for finding out the truth about my wife.
If a dude banged my wife who did know she was married but didn't know me, I would make him buy me a beer while I thanked him for showing me the truth about my wife.
If a dude banged my wife who knew she was my wife and knew me, yeah that dude is probably getting punched in the face. Or more likely I will just talk about how I want to punch him in the face with all my friends who are hopefully buying me beer to console me for finding out the truth about my wife.
Not regret about how things ended up obviously. More regret in that he was was involved with someone initially in a situation like that. Just trying to see if he is one of tenks moral people or an amoral ass like us.
Phazael
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I think the people who think that they would not be pissed at the other guy are being unrealistic. I pretty much agree with opiate's view. It would be nice if the average man respected the institution of marriage enough to not bang married women, especially given the vast amounts of available snapper out there, but the world is a shitty place. This comes back to the morality discussion we had a year ago, regarding would people nail a married women if they knew they could get away with it or would they cheat if they knew they could get a way with it. It comes back to what kind of person you are and the sort of asshole who knowingly plows married women deserves some ration of shit for being a weak scumbag of a man. While I would not personally engage in such behavior, I know and accept that there are men (and women) who cannot say know to their dick and do one time stupid shit, so I doubt I would go nuclear on the guy, unless he had a history as a home wrecker.
Actual rage is reserved for the kind of pond scum who goes out and forges relationships with married women. These men are parasites and worthless human beings, usually careening from one dumpster fire of a relationship to another. No man should enter a relationship with a woman who is married, because if she is cheating on the current man she will cheat on your dumb ass too. Or worse, she goes back to the guy and dishes on your affair when they have a shitty argument to score points and now you have some dude looking to come after you over your shitty behavior. If the woman is unhappy and in the process of ending the current relationship, fine, but only if you are 100% certain that the soon to be ex knows and accepts that the impending divorce. And it goes without saying you go scorched earth on the disloyal cunt who broke vows in this situation, even with kids. Going full pussy in this situation is going to make your kids think you are a dickless pushover.
If the other guy has no clue she is married, then no harm no foul on him. Odds are two Walmart work buddies are going to know each other's marital status, however.
Actual rage is reserved for the kind of pond scum who goes out and forges relationships with married women. These men are parasites and worthless human beings, usually careening from one dumpster fire of a relationship to another. No man should enter a relationship with a woman who is married, because if she is cheating on the current man she will cheat on your dumb ass too. Or worse, she goes back to the guy and dishes on your affair when they have a shitty argument to score points and now you have some dude looking to come after you over your shitty behavior. If the woman is unhappy and in the process of ending the current relationship, fine, but only if you are 100% certain that the soon to be ex knows and accepts that the impending divorce. And it goes without saying you go scorched earth on the disloyal cunt who broke vows in this situation, even with kids. Going full pussy in this situation is going to make your kids think you are a dickless pushover.
If the other guy has no clue she is married, then no harm no foul on him. Odds are two Walmart work buddies are going to know each other's marital status, however.
iannis
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Having been in this situation once (not with a wife, but even worse... with a girlfriend that I really did like!) I was surprised to find out that I wasn't at all pissed off at the other dude. I mean I understood.
I expected that if it ever happened to me I'd probably be raged at the dude. But I wasn't. I only talked to him once even, but it wasn't like PUNCH PUNCH SMASH... it was like, "Dude. I didn't know. Uhh... sorry?" and I was just like, "Fuckin party foul."
The story ends well at least. We both got our dicks sucked! Yay.
I expected that if it ever happened to me I'd probably be raged at the dude. But I wasn't. I only talked to him once even, but it wasn't like PUNCH PUNCH SMASH... it was like, "Dude. I didn't know. Uhh... sorry?" and I was just like, "Fuckin party foul."
The story ends well at least. We both got our dicks sucked! Yay.
Nester
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Agreed, when an old GF cheated on me, first I was mad at the world, but really I was hurt by her. I got over my anger with the dude (who I kinda new but not really) pretty quickly.
I guess my point is, if your going to going to jail for life for murder, pick the bitch that actually owed you allegiance instead of the dude who just did what his dick told him.
Big Phoenix
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I dont buy that.
Sure if the if the guy is some random dude she meet off the internet yeah whatever, pretty easy to hide info about yourself in that situation so the guy can have no idea about the marriage. On the other hand if its a co-worker, neighbor, mailman or something like that, they are fucking pieces of shit and should fucking know better. I kind of view that like a teacher banging a student, very unethical and shitty.
I mean it doesnt take that much to not be that guy and not stick your dick were it doesnt belong. Of course I was raised with the "dont treat others the way you wouldnt want to be treated" mentality so maybe its just me. At the anger =/= physical violence/threats/whatever. No dumb whore and her booty call is worth ruining your life over.
Sure if the if the guy is some random dude she meet off the internet yeah whatever, pretty easy to hide info about yourself in that situation so the guy can have no idea about the marriage. On the other hand if its a co-worker, neighbor, mailman or something like that, they are fucking pieces of shit and should fucking know better. I kind of view that like a teacher banging a student, very unethical and shitty.
I mean it doesnt take that much to not be that guy and not stick your dick were it doesnt belong. Of course I was raised with the "dont treat others the way you wouldnt want to be treated" mentality so maybe its just me. At the anger =/= physical violence/threats/whatever. No dumb whore and her booty call is worth ruining your life over.
Lejina
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If the guy doesn't know of my existence then fair enough.
If he fucked my girl knowing she was mine, then he gets hell if I meet him. He may not have made any vows to me but knowingly messing with my relationship is still a very personal and destructive action done to me. I'm generally pretty chill, but if someone is aware he's doing something that can turn my life upside down, he isn't going to get a "lol that's cool dude".
If he fucked my girl knowing she was mine, then he gets hell if I meet him. He may not have made any vows to me but knowingly messing with my relationship is still a very personal and destructive action done to me. I'm generally pretty chill, but if someone is aware he's doing something that can turn my life upside down, he isn't going to get a "lol that's cool dude".
Eidal
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tldr; women aren't possessions, someone fucking my wife didn't steal my seat when I went to the restroom, or steal my phone out of my car... he made a conscious choice with another consenting rational being and now her and I need to figure out the best route forward.
Stop acting like you possess the woman you married. I wouldn't go take your car because its nice, I like it and think it would make me happy.However: in any hypothetical situation in which I think the woman currently infatuated with you would be better offwithme andforme, then I would do everything in my power to convince her of that. This isn't me being a "me-first asshole"; if I happen to be right, then its you being selfish by interfering with what would make two other people more happy. If I'm wrong, then I'm just another face in the crowd of men that happen to hit on beautiful married women. Assuming your wife is beautiful. If she isn't, then this wouldn't ever be a problem.
This is hypothetical; I'm happily married. My wife is active duty; she could take her pick from literally a hundred men she works around, many of whom are in excellent physical shape and good people. I'm sure many of them hit on her constantly and make their willingness known. It isn't worth my time nor does it better me to cultivate any negative thoughts towards them. Golden rule, etc etc.
Cad
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Haast
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Khane
Got something right about marriage
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Marriage, the contract that you sign, makes the both of you each other's "possession". It's in the "I do" vows you agreed to in front however many people you invited to the ceremony. You may not like it, but that's what you agreed.
Eidal, that entire diatribe sounded forced and immature. "If I want her I'll do everything in my power to take her". I think you've watched Chasing Amy one too many times.
Eidal, that entire diatribe sounded forced and immature. "If I want her I'll do everything in my power to take her". I think you've watched Chasing Amy one too many times.
Noodleface
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In all honesty if my wife cheated on me I'd probably wish her well and just leave. I already told her before we got married that I had been cheated on pretty hard early on in my life and did not believe in the practice. For me there is not reconciliation at that point, it's over. End of story. If she chose to cheat on me after being told that, then she should very well know what's going to happen. My girlfriend that cheated on me received the same wrath, I just said "see ya later" and never talked to her again.
It's a little more complicated now because I have a child on the way. Like it or not, I'd have to be involved with my wife for the rest of my life for the child's sake.
I've been to my wife's work a few times and I've hung out with a few of her male co-workers. One in particular gives me a funny feeling that I can't quite describe. He's married and slightly older, but he says things and acts in a way that makes me stop for a short moment and wonder. While I don't believe my wife is cheating on me, I feel if it was anyone I wouldn't be surprised to find out it's this dude. I'm not insecure about it, and there's no reason for me to make an issue of it, so I let them continue their friendship. If I found out this dude was "the one", I feel I'd be completely justified with a good ol' rumble in the ring.
Also, another concern I'd always have is if my wife was cheating on me and the dude might have some sort of STD. I have some irrational fear because it happened to a family member - they ended up with herpes after their wife got it via cheating. That deserves a rumbling.
It's a little more complicated now because I have a child on the way. Like it or not, I'd have to be involved with my wife for the rest of my life for the child's sake.
I've been to my wife's work a few times and I've hung out with a few of her male co-workers. One in particular gives me a funny feeling that I can't quite describe. He's married and slightly older, but he says things and acts in a way that makes me stop for a short moment and wonder. While I don't believe my wife is cheating on me, I feel if it was anyone I wouldn't be surprised to find out it's this dude. I'm not insecure about it, and there's no reason for me to make an issue of it, so I let them continue their friendship. If I found out this dude was "the one", I feel I'd be completely justified with a good ol' rumble in the ring.
Also, another concern I'd always have is if my wife was cheating on me and the dude might have some sort of STD. I have some irrational fear because it happened to a family member - they ended up with herpes after their wife got it via cheating. That deserves a rumbling.
Noodleface
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I mean if she's going to cheat on me and have a kid I'd be happier if it was the other persons.
Herpes is just bad luck
Herpes is just bad luck
Eidal
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This is the dumbest thing you've written in a while, Khane. You must still be salty that no one believes how amazingly strong you are in the weight loss thread.
My wife and I do not "possess" one another in the same sense that I possess my cell phone or my computer, and even attempting to make this point just dilutes the English language. Why would you even bother to try and define the relationship a stranger has with his wife?