Marriage and the Power of Divorce

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Tarrant

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There's where I guess I don't agree. After being divorced myself I realized quickly I needed to do what was best for me and everyone else came second. Now I'm not saying totally disregard everyone's feelings but you gotta do what is good for you. When I divorced I ended up moving 4 hours away from my kids because that's what I needed to do to be happy and to properly support myself and them. To me that was the ultimate hard decision but it's one I made because I knew I needed to do what was right for me because in the end it would also be a benefit to anyone else in my life I choose to let in.

Granted your situation isn't what mine was but the lesson of "doing what's right for you" is still there. You haven't been with this girl all that long and yeah you like her but in the end, man, you gotta do what's good for you. If you moving is best for you then do it. If she can't respect that or if she freaks out because the guy she's seeing lives int he same town as she does (you know, like 98% of all relationships do) then that's on her. I don't get her hang up on a guy shes dating living in the same town as she does, is't that how it works most of the time anyway?
 
Sutekh

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Soygen_sl said:
He said he'd make her laugh, not laugh at her.
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Yeah well I misread it and committed to insulting him so now I can't turn back.

Tarrant_sl said:
There's where I guess I don't agree. After being divorced myself I realized quickly I needed to do what was best for me and everyone else came second. Now I'm not saying totally disregard everyone's feelings but you gotta do what is good for you. When I divorced I ended up moving 4 hours away from my kids because that's what I needed to do to be happy and to properly support myself and them. To me that was the ultimate hard decision but it's one I made because I knew I needed to do what was right for me because in the end it would also be a benefit to anyone else in my life I choose to let in.

Granted your situation isn't what mine was but the lesson of "doing what's right for you" is still there. You haven't been with this girl all that long, and yeah you like her but in the end, man, you gotta do what's good for you. If you moving is best for you then do it. If she can't respect that or if she freaks out because the guy she's seeing lives int he same town as she does (you know, like 98% of all relationships do) then that's on her. I don't get her hang up on a guy shes dating living in the same town as she does, is't that how it works most of the time anyway?
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I think you're misinterpreting it. It's not the idea that I'd be living in that town that would scare her, it's the idea that I'd be moving for her that scares her. I can say it up and down that it won't be FOR HER, but truth be told if she were not in the picture I wouldn't move there. It would probably be somewhere else in the world.

There's more factors that I'm not going to get into because unless I typed up a novel it would just look bad, but that's about it.
 
McCheese

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Tarrant gave the best advice. Unless you're in a committed relationship where you have a responsibility to your partner, you should do what's best for you and your life. This is great advice in general, not just for Sutekh.
 
Itlan

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Sutekh what do you do for a living?

And I played EQ and I'm 25. I also work under the presumption everyone on this forum is some old, miserable fuck who played EQ in their 20s.
 
Khane

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Itlan_sl said:
Sutekh what do you do for a living?

And I played EQ and I'm 25. I also work under the presumption everyone on this forum is some old, miserable fuck who played EQ in their 20s.
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As opposed to some young, miserable fuck who's mom had to move out because he never was going to?

Oh shit... that was a sick grownup forums burn. Take that to the weight loss thread and suck it!!!!!

Little Sumpin' Sumpin' ale makes me adversarial.
 
Sutekh

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Khane_sl said:
As opposed to some young, miserable fuck who's mom had to move out because he never was going to?

Oh shit... that was a sick grownup forums burn. Take that to the weight loss thread and suck it!!!!!

Little Sumpin' Sumpin' ale makes me adversarial.
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why are you drinking at 1 p.m.?
 
Itlan

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Khane_sl said:
As opposed to some young, miserable fuck who's mom had to move out because he never was going to?

Oh shit... that was a sick grownup forums burn. Take that to the weight loss thread and suck it!!!!!

Little Sumpin' Sumpin' ale makes me adversarial.
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#rekt

And why the fuck would I move out?! FREE ROOM AND BOARD. FREE FOOD. FREE LAUNDRY.

You've got to be an idiot to pass that up!
 
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You fucking Nor'easters. When I get snow every 5th year I get told to come in to work and then get stuck on the highway overnight as massive cars pile up and it's just straight fuckery.
 
Khane

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Itlan_sl said:
#rekt

And why the fuck would I move out?! FREE ROOM AND BOARD. FREE FOOD. FREE LAUNDRY.

You've got to be an idiot to pass that up!
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That's why most of us still post here. We're hoping to find "the one"
 
Soygen

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The only problem with your mom being "the one" is that the sex issoawkward.
 
Khane

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Is it though? You've already come out of it, might as well get back in it.
 
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