Marriage and the Power of Divorce
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Nester
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Like I said earlier you're lazy. Or at the very least you don't value the friendships that highly. The five month year old is a border case, but if you really wanted to hang out with friends or co workers after about the six month mark you could have found a reliable baby sitter or family member who is willing to watch the child(ren) a couple times per month. Obviously it won't be an every weekend thing until the kids are more self sufficient but they are in no way responsible for someone cutting off their whole social life. For most people though it seems to be too much effort to arrange for child care and set up plans for going out a week or two in advance. For us gamer nerds you also usually have to make the call between seeing friends or spending the time gaming because your free time does become much more limited when children are involved. It's just easier to play some WoW on Saturday afternoon while the kids are e busy or sleeping.So what causes it? I'm pretty much in chaos' same boat. Have a 2 year old and a 5 month old, and as much as I hated when my friends would do this to me, I feel I've done it back to all of them. wtf.
Khane
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All my friends just do what dirk does. They invite people over to their house and we all hang out, with all the kids.
Of course, I am the only single one with no kids. At first they wouldn't invite me because they thought it would "cramp my style" and then they realized I like their kids and am happy to hang out at their house. I can see my friends, play with the kiddos, and then leave without having to worry about them whining and crying at bed time.
Plus my friends love it because the kids are all up in my shit instead of theirs for a couple hours. And the women love it because they get to give me shit about my lifestyle choices and do pretty much exactly what a_skeleton_03 and Phaz were doing the last few pages. And I usually get to eat free food and drink free beer. There really are no losers in the scenario.
Of course, I am the only single one with no kids. At first they wouldn't invite me because they thought it would "cramp my style" and then they realized I like their kids and am happy to hang out at their house. I can see my friends, play with the kiddos, and then leave without having to worry about them whining and crying at bed time.
Plus my friends love it because the kids are all up in my shit instead of theirs for a couple hours. And the women love it because they get to give me shit about my lifestyle choices and do pretty much exactly what a_skeleton_03 and Phaz were doing the last few pages. And I usually get to eat free food and drink free beer. There really are no losers in the scenario.
Single guys like this are quite fun to hang out with. They are very protective of your children and they can introduce you to new foods and wines and stuff. As much as I might think your lifestyle isn't good advice for an already married couple you guys are good people
Start out with just one couple one on one like I said earlier and then start bringing more in slowly. Do it like a game. Married couples with kids, then a single guy/girl or couple without kids, and then another married couple, rinse/repeat until you run out of room.
People like to complain about costs but if you potluck it can be cheap and easy. It's all about effort. I say that as a lazy son of a bitch that just started doing all that after the kids got older.
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Except you missed the part where we interact a lot with people who don't have kids, and we do it successfully. That includes having them here, and going there. Training kids to not be little shits when visiting at people's place who don't have kids is pretty basic training.
I'd invite you if you were a single guy without kids, or a guy with a +1 because you're dating. I wouldn't invite you if you're a dick. Has nothing to do with kids, really.
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Khane
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Well we just rotate between all the houses. I'd invite them over to mine but that would be a lot of kids (like 10+) in my apartment that has nothing for kids to do, so that wouldn't work. 8 different couples and then me... I'm really the only single one in my entire group of local friends.
I can't really make heads or tails of your post. It kind of feels like an attack, but I can't be sure.
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It's not an attack. Not in the least. The truth is that we have friends who would likely fill a similar profile to you. We spend time at these friends places. We bring kids, so we bring things for the kids to do. We don't expect you to be the ultimate child entertainer, we expect you to be part of our community. That includes accepting that we show up with kids. And knowing that we don't expect you to do a song and dance for them. We have kids. We are social. If you get invitations from us, work in that framework. It's a wide open framework. We're just not letting having kids stopping us from being social.
Khane
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Hoss
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Did you facepalm when you actually went and looked up what i said again? Because you should have. You're the only one who was using absolutes. If I was saying women can't separate sex from feelings, why did I mention she might need to be trained out of that? When I said it was "not a widespread problem" I was clearly showing it wasn't an absolute for men either.
Tell ya what fuckface, you seem to suck at english. Why don't you tell me what your native language is and the next time you feel like having an argument, maybe we can do it on your home turf.
Khane
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That's pretty good. I don't know if you could handle all the homosexuals and bible burning on my home turf though. It's one degree away from hell and hedonism.
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He says in March when all the arguments were in February. Way to be late to the party!!