Marriage and the Power of Divorce

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Soygen

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It was melanoma. He let a spot on his cheek go too long. Got it removed and never told us anything of it. A few months later, he got super sick and died within a few days. Turns out he knew it was coming and never told us. It was pretty fucked up, but I've come to terms with the fact that people deal with shit in their own way and don't really owe it to anyone else on how they deal with it.
 
Gavinmad

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Soygen_sl said:
I've come to terms with the fact that people deal with shit in their own way and don't really owe it to anyone else on how they deal with it.
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As someone who would be very tempted to do the same thing if I ended up with a terminal illness, I don't think that's true at all. I mean yeah, he's the one who was dying, but that's still incredibly selfish to let your family find out like that. If you care about your loved ones, you absolutely owe them consideration.
 
Soygen

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I guess my point is thatI'mok with that selfishness. I can't speak for everyone who goes through a similar situation.
 
Noodleface

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It may have been tough for him to come to terms with his mortality, who knows really.

I feel my dad is going to pull the same thing. On the front he acts like he takes all his meds and controls his diet, but my sister who lives with him tells a much different tale. Instead of going to the doctor he buys pills online from Canada and self-medicates.

I feel one day we'll get news that he is in a coma and soon after he will pass.
 
Eomer

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That's tough. I can understand people who have terminal cancer not wanting to go through a bunch of awful treatments just to get a few more weeks or months, and the conflict that can cause in a family. My best friend's father in law died of bile duct cancer last year, and when he initially said he wasn't going to do any treatment when it came back (it had been in remission for 2-3 years), his family got all pissy at him about it. Which I think was shitty of them. In the end he did agree to treatments and he spent the last couple months of his life in hell.

But just outright not telling anyone and kicking the bucket with next to no warning? That's kind of crappy. But I guess ultimately his decision. If it were my dad I don't think I'd be all that bent out of shape about it, but my mom and sister sure as hell would.
 
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My aunt died from lung cancer and didn't tell anyone either. However, she was a bit of a religious nut and honestly thought that she was going to prey it away. The worse part is she had two teenage children that were left in limbo and she didn't sort out any of her affairs.

Strangely enough my dad passed away from cancer one year to the day before my aunt (Mom's sister). He though had been sick for the better part of ten years and was more then ready to check out. He had every last detail taken care of. He didn't want a viewing so when he passed away we had to make a phone call, the funeral home came out picked him up and 3 days later his ashes were returned to my mom.
 
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If my cancer comes back the wife already knows that we will keep it between us and probably won't fight it.

Chemo was not pleasant in the slightest.
 
iannis

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Soygen_sl said:
It was melanoma. He let a spot on his cheek go too long. Got it removed and never told us anything of it. A few months later, he got super sick and died within a few days. Turns out he knew it was coming and never told us. It was pretty fucked up, but I've come to terms with the fact that people deal with shit in their own way and don't really owe it to anyone else on how they deal with it.
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I've seen it dealt with a few ways, and what he did has some advantages.

I don't know that there really is a right way to do it.
 
Falstaff

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Tenks_sl said:
This weekend the new Path of Exile league opened on Friday. I informed my wife earlier this week that on Friday I will be unavailable and be doing nothing other than playing Path of Exile. Friday rolls around and I remind her again to which the reply was "I know you've told me every day this week." She purchased herself a bottle of wine and proceeded to watch Gossip Girl (which sounds to be the worst show ever created) downstairs while I played Path of Exile upstairs. The servers were somewhat unstable and I got a tad drunk (I get frustrated easily when I'm drunk) so I called it a night at 11:30. When she heard me come downstairs she also shut off her TV and we went to bed.

On Saturday I woke up and the Path of Exile servers were more stable. I previously made arrangements to have dinner at a place she loves (also where we had our rehearsal dinner -- we also had a gift card) for 6:00. We both like to eat dinner early. I played Path of Exile almost all Saturday. I managed to get my character past cruel difficulty. She watched Gossip Girl. We went out for dinner. We got some brucetta which was out of this world. I got scallops and she got a steak. We went home at which time we watched a few episodes of Rick and Morty then engaged in sexual activities. Afterwards I went upstairs to play Path of Exile and I don't recall what she was watching downstairs.

On Sunday I woke up and shockingly I played Path of Exile. Sunday is generally our chores and grocery shopping day as well so I vacuumed the house while she cleaned the bathrooms. I was exhausted still from my workout Thursday so she went to the gym by herself. I ran out for lunch to get some Pad Thai while she ate her leftovers from the previous dinner. After another fun filled day of Path of Exile and Gossip Girl we had a southwest fritatta for dinner while watching the Amazing Race. Afterwards we watched some episodes of Rick and Morty and then we went to bed.

This evening I presume she will be busy watching Madam Secretary and the final episode of Downtown Abby while I play Path of Exile. I also have some yard work I may do because the weather is fantastic today.

Welcome to married life people
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Whole post could have been shortened to "yadda yadda yadda, I played Path of Exile all weekend".
 
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Your summary was perfect but I thought you were being a dick so I read the post. Don't read the post.
 
Tarrant

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Divorce still happening, wife lost her mind and was committed for 10 days and diagnosed with a borderline personality disorder and got out last week.

Yesterday I was granted full custody of our son.
 
Noodleface

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That's good news (mostly) Tarrant, glad that worked out. Obviously sad to hear everything that has happened to your wife and what she's put you through. How's the little dude taking it?
 
Soygen

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Sorry it took all of that to happen, Tarrant, but I'm happy for you as far as the result.
 
Frenzied Wombat

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Tarrant_sl said:
Divorce still happening, wife lost her mind and was committed for 10 days and diagnosed with a borderline personality disorder and got out last week.

Yesterday I was granted full custody of our son.
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Oh boy, BPD chicks are a total fucking nightmare-- I've dated one before.. Mind you most women imho show the "symptoms" to some degree, so who the fuck knows. In any case, congrats on full custody and double congrats on the violence free escape. BPD chicks are totally fucking psycho..
 
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