Marriage and the Power of Divorce

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Haast_sl said:
In Fifey's case, she talked about how she wants in and is a non-participating drag at the event and wanted to leave ASAP. That's lousy.
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Oh I agree but thats not what he said in that post, he said he didn't want her to "latch onto his hobbies." He didn't say anything about non-participating or being a drag. In that case it's the non-participating and being a drag thats the issue, not any latching.

Haast_sl said:
I've run some 5K/10K events and my GF came along sometimes and walked/jogged the 5K. I'm fine with this, though it seems a little pointless paying $25+ to have your leisurely stroll chip timed. But if she came along, looked miserable and rushed me out afterwards I'd be irked. Or if she was foolish enough to say she expected me to slow down for her at a timed event, that would be addressed immediately. Thankfully, those weren't the case.
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Fifey

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I'm just saying I've never met a girl who will hang as hard as dudes will and maybe it is different when you are in love with somebody.

Relationships are all about compromise and I think I'm just unwilling to compromise.
 
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Every relationship is different, but some women hang with the boys just fine. My wife is one of those. Just got back from a nerd tournament in Dallas and the contrast between the showboat wives who breezed through on their way to do girly shit and my wife playing the games and boozing with us was stark. It reminds me just how well I have it.

But that sort of relationship is not for everyone. Some people want to be the boss and some people want to be bossed around. Different strokes for different folks....
 
Khane

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I've always found that the more competitive I am in a particular hobby the less I want my woman participating. A few reasons for this:

1) I've never met a woman as competitive as me in anything so inevitably when I get worked up I hear the inexcusable "Calm down. It's just a game". Nothing triggers me harder when I'm trying to win than hearing "Calm Down". It has the very opposite effect.
2) Because they lack the competitive edge they can't keep up with me. This pisses them off when I leave them in my dust and then it becomes a fight.
3) I don't have many non-physical hobbies other than video games. Biology just plain prevents women from being able to play with the men.

In other words the chances of me (and men like me) finding a woman they can spend all/most of their time with just isn't in the cards. And when a woman tries to spend all her time with me while I'm being competitive she's going to get a rude awakening.

Of course I'm not that way when it comes to most things, but enough things that it becomes an issue with co-dependent women.
 
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I used to be hyper competitive, both in the limited fat ass activities I engaged in (scuba diving, snowmobiling, ect) and the vast array of nerd shit I do. Age tempers a lot of that and not all women (at least those in my age bracket) are submissive pushovers with no competitive edge. I am guessing you are late 20s early 30s? I can completely understand your point of view, even though I no longer share it.
 
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Wife is in bed, the gents just left, large quantities of excellent beer were had. Everyone is happy, no one is suspicious or angry because a happy time was had without the partner, sex is likely, it's a good life.
 
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lurkingdirk_sl said:
Wife is in bed, the gents just left, large quantities of excellent beer were had. Everyone is happy, no one is suspicious or angry because a happy time was had without the partner, sex is likely, it's a good life.
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This post made me smile...that level of understanding is a treasure. I see other people here express it too and I am glad for them. I was lucky to have that with G.
Alternatively, for those who are content in their more singular circumstance; I am pleased you know yourselves so well...the mated life is not for everyone.
May all of you be surrounded by true friendships though; being able to count on another person when you are facing despair can be life saving.
 
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lurkingdirk_sl said:
Wife is in bed, the gents just left, large quantities of excellent beer were had. Everyone is happy, no one is suspicious or angry because a happy time was had without the partner, sex is likely, it's a good life.
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Ya know... this could be phrased differently. I'm just saying.

Think khorum's favorite new insult if you don't get what I mean.
 
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Noodlemod_sl said:
Tonight I played guitar , went upstairs and wife was waiting in lingerie. Everyone was happy.
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I don't have an upstairs
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What does that even mean, "hang as hard as dudes?" how do you "hang hard" wtf does that even mean?

Going out for drinks with the lady friend tonight, she's had a rough week (her cousin who is her best friend just found out she has cancer, she owns her own cleaning business and tax time is now which is stressing her a bit) and asked if I could pick her up at her place in case she has one to many (shes 5'1" and a few beers are enough to get her tipsy). I'm hopeful of post drink activities though the thought of them seems odd too as other than the few BJ's I got from the FWB, I've not been with anyone other than my wife in some years.

I don't think it's my being nervous or anything, just an odd thought that hit me a little bit ago.
 
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Tarrant_sl said:
What does that even mean, "hang as hard as dudes?" how do you "hang hard" wtf does that even mean?

Going out for drinks with the lady friend tonight, she's had a rough week (her cousin who is her best friend just found out she has cancer, she owns her own cleaning business and tax time is now which is stressing her a bit) and asked if I could pick her up at her place in case she has one to many (shes 5'1" and a few beers are enough to get her tipsy). I'm hopeful of post drink activities though the thought of them seems odd too as other than the few BJ's I got from the FWB, I've not been with anyone other than my wife in some years.

I don't think it's my being nervous or anything, just an odd thought that hit me a little bit ago.
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Don't forget to tidy things up with a little manscaping.
 
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Eomer's was "special lady friend". I believe she had a learning disability.
 
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I just assumed that was what special meant.

Sorry, is this pushing the limit in the "Grown Up" forum?
 
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