Marriage and the Power of Divorce

Itlan · Apr 18, 2016

mures_sl said:
Gorgeous 23 yo girl who fucks like a porn star, you go months at a time without seeing her, and youdon'tthink she's double dipping? She's 23 bro! and apparently likes to fuck, she's not going 30 days without getting her some.

Only reason I say that is because of a mutual friend. But trust me, that's the first thing I thought as well.

Mures · Apr 18, 2016

Well she's not going to go telling mutual friends about all the dudes she's been banging is she? A guy I was childhood best friends with was cheating on his gf for years and I never knew about it.

Senaiel · Apr 18, 2016

You know how we talk about nurses being crazy? My friends and I all agree that public accountant staff level people are nearly as insane. I've worked with public accountants for a while and I wouldn't be surprised if they are shitting in people's bushes. The thing is since they all have long hours during busy season, travel with each other often and typically work on same engagements for a while and are young there is 1 result: A high rate of banging coworkers. Just a generalization, but it's proved fact many times so beware good sir

Itlan · Apr 18, 2016

mures_sl said:
Well she's not going to go telling mutual friends about all the dudes she's been banging is she? A guy I was childhood best friends with was cheating on his gf for years and I never knew about it.

They're the type who menstruate at the same time. But it's like you said, no one will really ever know her business besides her and other dude(s) should there be any.

And that's a valid point Senaiel.

Hoss · Apr 18, 2016

Itlan_sl said:
She texts me the other night saying "I know you don't want to talk but I just want to apologize if you are open to talking but I get if you're not." I ask her what is there to talk about. "I just don't think you have the whole picture."

I don't even know what the fuck that means. Should I hear her out? Or am I just setting myself up for some fucked up situation where there's really nothing to gain?

This is when she's going to tell you she has a dick. I don't know how you've been fucking her for so long and not noticed. So basically yeah go hear her out. Unless you'd commit suicide when you found out about the dick.

Senaiel_sl said:
You know how we talk about nurses being crazy? My friends and I all agree that public accountant staff level people are nearly as insane. I've worked with public accountants for a while and I wouldn't be surprised if they are shitting in people's bushes. The thing is since they all have long hours during busy season, travel with each other often and typically work on same engagements for a while and are young there is 1 result: A high rate of banging coworkers. Just a generalization, but it's proved fact many times so beware good sir

It's almost like all chicks are crazy or something.

Kirun · Apr 18, 2016

Itlan_sl said:
This is going to be a long one fellas but I'll try to keep it as simple as possible.

Last July blacked out for my friends birthday. She happened to invite this girl who was cute. Wake up, have the chicks phone #. We talk, blah blah blah, by August we're having sex. Best sex of my life, girl is absolutely amazing in my mind - just landed a job at Deloitte, comes from a good family, similar interests in music, she's into art, she knows what the fuck "deism" means. Basically, she's gorgeous, has an amazing rack, is the best sex I've ever had, and she's highly intelligent. I know, you're all thinking "RUN! SHE'S INSANE." Maybe. Oh btw, she just got out of a 7 year relationship where he was cheating on her repeatedly (he called her 50 times one night while we were sleeping). Anywayyyy...

We continue seeing each other. She says I love you. I say it back. Around November she starts working 60+ hour weeks down in Red Bank so we don't see each other much if only on weekends. I get she's busy, work comes first, etc. At the same time, I'm beginning to get annoyed that even the simplest of texts I'm not getting back, even just a "goodnight." Eventually we get into a huge fight and she redirects everything back to work and how work comes first, when that has nothing to do with my issues at the time. It takes 10 seconds to send a good morning or a good night text. Keep in mind, she's still going out drinking and doing her own things on weekends with her friends. Basically tell her to fuck off and we end things.

We keep texting on and off throughout those 2 months basically and on New Years she texts me saying "you're not going to wish me a happy new year?" Long story short, get sucked back in like a week later and everything is back to how it was before. I went to visit my mother in Florida for a week and it was just incessant "I miss you." "Come home." etc. etc. We spend Valentine's Day together, kept it pretty simple at home, she tells me she loves me blah blah blah. Then the same shit happens again, works all week so we don't see each other during the week and then goes out with her friend (who i can't fucking stand mind you) on weekends and does who knows what. We argue, she says I'm trying to force things, I tell her what the fuck is the point in us even "talking" if we don't see each other for what has been a month now? So I basically get plastered one night, call her a stupid cunt and tell her to fuck off again.

She texts me the other night saying "I know you don't want to talk but I just want to apologize if you are open to talking but I get if you're not." I ask her what is there to talk about. "I just don't think you have the whole picture."

I don't even know what the fuck that means. Should I hear her out? Or am I just setting myself up for some fucked up situation where there's really nothing to gain?

A lot of this was simplified cause no one wants to read a fucking book, but if you guys need any more detail on certain things I'm happy to share.

I remember my first relationship in high school too.

At 26, your relationships should start involving a hell of a lot less drama than this one.

Miguex · Apr 18, 2016

you already know everything you need to know. She's told you exactly where you stand when she gets busy. You said it in the first post...10 seconds to reply to a good morning text. This is precisely how I knew my last relationship was ending, and I wasn't wrong.

Khane · Apr 18, 2016

Kirun_sl said:
I remember my first relationship in high school too.

At 26, your relationships should start involving a hell of a lot less drama than this one.

There's never less drama, you just get better at ignoring shit, not caring and being your own man.

Deathwing · Apr 19, 2016

Like being OK with your wife farting.

opiate82 · Apr 19, 2016

This is kind of what I see, so you don't see her all week but on the weekends hanging with her friends is more important than seeing you?

That doesn't sound like love... just saying...

Palum · Apr 19, 2016

He's just the rock she wants. Chick is using him as emotional tampon. She wants all the benes of a relationship without any work or compromise.

Tenks · Apr 19, 2016

Honestly who texts good morning/good night to their significant other? I'm pretty sure I stopped doing that shit when I got rid of my flip phone. That seems unnecessarily needy to me.

Soygen · Apr 19, 2016

I'm probably the furthest thing from needy and(before we lived together) my girlfriend and I always texted goodnight. I still do if I'm traveling for work, etc. It's practically the lowest effort gesture you can make.

Tenks · Apr 19, 2016

If its admittedly low effort then why is it even needed? Low effort means meaningless in my eyes.

Noodleface · Apr 19, 2016

I text my wife when I get to work or when I go to sleep (and she has to work). Maybe I'm old fashioned but I like to think if that was the last thing my wife or I said to eachother it would be a lot more meaningful than a random boner pic I sent.

Soygen · Apr 19, 2016

Tenks_sl said:
If its admittedly low effort then why is it even needed? Low effort means meaningless in my eyes.

There are tons of low effort things people do in relationships as nice gestures. I'm not judging you for not doing it, but do you lean over and kiss your wife goodnight or goodbye? I'm not sure there is much difference.

Tenks · Apr 19, 2016

I kiss her goodbye when she leaves for work. I sometimes kiss her goodnight but not usually. I suppose the demarcation for me is that something physical is different than just an SMS. And like I said (I think) I did it when I was younger and I'd read heavily into why my good night was unreplied or took a while to reply to but that pretty much stopped once I started getting into real relationships. And my wife and I both prefer our space so it would not be in our personality profiles to want to text all the time. I also don't travel for work and I could see it being something I'd do if I was away for work.

Itlan · Apr 19, 2016

Palum_sl said:
He's just the rock she wants. Chick is using him as emotional tampon. She wants all the benes of a relationship without any work or compromise.

This is what I think as well.

Anyway she came over yesterday, it was civil. She apologized for everything and I told her I don't hate her or anything but to just stay out of my life from now on.

I'll miss the sex tho. First squirter. They seem like a rare breed.

Itlan · Apr 19, 2016

Tenks_sl said:
I kiss her goodbye when she leaves for work. I sometimes kiss her goodnight but not usually. I suppose the demarcation for me is that something physical is different than just an SMS. And like I said (I think) I did it when I was younger and I'd read heavily into why my good night was unreplied or took a while to reply to but that pretty much stopped once I started getting into real relationships. And my wife and I both prefer our space so it would not be in our personality profiles to want to text all the time. I also don't travel for work and I could see it being something I'd do if I was away for work.

Well that's the difference really, we didn't live together and she was off on audit bullshit for entire weeks at a time so all we had for communication was texting. I didn't think it was much to expect a reply, but you're probably right in that I should probably just stop giving a shit and "be my own man" I think was the phrase used.

Soygen · Apr 19, 2016

You can make them all squirt if you really want to get pissed on. Some just need a bit more 'manual' help doing it.

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