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Baby girl turned 2yo 3 months ago, still delayed on her speech, now it is just long gibberish sentences, while clearly saying "Hello", "hi" and "bye" to every single person she sees, and waving her hand too.
Less concerned now with the early autism diagnosis, We guess she is 6-8 month behind on the speech. She doesn't point too much, but understand when you point at things.

The tantrums are horrible, horrible, if you tell them "no" it is an instant tantrum. Funny at times, annoying at others.
The dog has it worse, she likes to grab him and pinch his skin. Poor guy.
 
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Baby girl turned 2yo 3 months ago, still delayed on her speech, now it is just long gibberish sentences, while clearly saying "Hello", "hi" and "bye" to every single person she sees, and waving her hand too.
Less concerned now with the early autism diagnosis, We guess she is 6-8 month behind on the speech. She doesn't point too much, but understand when you point at things.

The tantrums are horrible, horrible, if you tell them "no" it is an instant tantrum. Funny at times, annoying at others.
The dog has it worse, she likes to grab him and pinch his skin. Poor guy.
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Basically exactly what we have but he's just younger.

Actually the dude is very smart. You ask him where stuff is and he knows it. Probably 100 or more things (objects, people, stuff in books) . Still not talking but he's improving I'd say.

He's also a fucking comedian. He likes to sit in the tub. Strain his body while looking at you, rip a giant fart and wait for a reaction then start cracking up.

Also he went from being attached to me. 24/7 to attached to my wife. Couldn't give a shit about me lately despite my best efforts. Feels bad man
 
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Some of the tantrum stuff we've moved to "when ... then..." and I just give them something that seems easy but is near impossible for them. "You want some extra candy? When you finish cleaning your room, then you can have some candy." I use it for most things, so they know they can get stuff with it, but when I don't want to say no I give them something stupid to do. Works on the 5yo, 3yo, and 2yo. The 5yo has started figuring out that I'm giving them something they probably won't do, but she's actually gone through and delivered. The 2yo understands it, but dgaf and wants what he wants.
 
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Little fella arrived this morning. Hatorades avatar would approve of the chosen name. Feels weird looking at him and realising I now have to look after him!
 
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Congratulations :). It is quite an amazing feeling is it not? For me it was truly one of those turning points in life where everything changed and looked completely new as if seen through a different new set of eyes.
 
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I encourage my kids to be up to date on current events. They read news, listen to radio news, talk about events with me and my wife and our friends.

Today I heard my middle child say "What the fuck is wrong with us?" while looking at the news. I didn't make it an issue. She is asking a perceptive question.

Do any of you have issues with letting your kids read/hear news? Last time I had my youngest in my vehicle I put on NPR who immediately started a report on how a group of men were on a rampage of murder and rape in the Central African Republic. Sorry, I don't want to have that discussion with my 8 year old.

I do wonder, though, what others do with this? I have no desire whatsoever to shield my kids from the realities of the world, but at what age? When do these things become fair game for conversation.

My twins just turned 16, and last night the two of them were up late with me and we had this really amazing conversation about what is currently happening in America, what it means for our family living in Canada, Netherlands, and South Africa, what it means about visiting them, and how can they take pride in their American heritage when talking to their non-American relatives. My wife and I told them to be very proud of their American heritage, and lets work on figuring the rest out.

This is not an anti-Trump post. This is not a pro-liberal post. This is someone with five pretty intelligent kids who are asking questions I find difficult to answer. I have no desire to make them conform to my political position. I want to educate them so they might form their own positions in politics, and be responsible citizens.

Anyone have easy answers for this? Particularly good resources?

Why the fuck don't kids come with a fucking manual?
 
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lurkingdirk said:
I encourage my kids to be up to date on current events. They read news, listen to radio news, talk about events with me and my wife and our friends.

Today I heard my middle child say "What the fuck is wrong with us?" while looking at the news. I didn't make it an issue. She is asking a perceptive question.

Do any of you have issues with letting your kids read/hear news? Last time I had my youngest in my vehicle I put on NPR who immediately started a report on how a group of men were on a rampage of murder and rape in the Central African Republic. Sorry, I don't want to have that discussion with my 8 year old.

I do wonder, though, what others do with this? I have no desire whatsoever to shield my kids from the realities of the world, but at what age? When do these things become fair game for conversation.

My twins just turned 16, and last night the two of them were up late with me and we had this really amazing conversation about what is currently happening in America, what it means for our family living in Canada, Netherlands, and South Africa, what it means about visiting them, and how can they take pride in their American heritage when talking to their non-American relatives. My wife and I told them to be very proud of their American heritage, and lets work on figuring the rest out.

This is not an anti-Trump post. This is not a pro-liberal post. This is someone with five pretty intelligent kids who are asking questions I find difficult to answer. I have no desire to make them conform to my political position. I want to educate them so they might form their own positions in politics, and be responsible citizens.

Anyone have easy answers for this? Particularly good resources?

Why the fuck don't kids come with a fucking manual?
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I don't know what the right answer is, but at that age if you don't give them your thoughts, someone else will.

I'd do your best to give them facts and separate facts from opinions... clearly say "well there's disagreement about what X means, some people think it means Y, some people think it means Z. I think it means Y because reasons, but a lot of people disagree with that. You can make up your own mind." But tell them the facts of a situation and discuss it. Don't get mad, don't call them asshat literal hitlers or libtard cucks if they hold some view.

But I think at a certain point if you just avoid those topics to avoid drama all you're doing is allowing them to be programmed by someone else who isn't afraid to have that talk. Probably some uninformed shitbird.
 
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They will mimic you. It's where we start. We take the view of our parent, mimic it trying to understand it, and in the course of time personalize it. Often rejecting it at least partially. Sometimes not. Other times wholly.

So even though I don't have any kids, I do think you do your children a disservice to not provide moral teaching. Especially when they directly ask for it.

It's what you're there for. Second only to food in their bellies and shit off their asses.

This is not indoctrination. This is child rearing.
 
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Kalaar kururuc said:
Little fella arrived this morning. Hatorades avatar would approve of the chosen name. Feels weird looking at him and realising I now have to look after him!
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Grats. My wife is due with our first tomorrow. Seems like it's going to be a few days still. Only getting contractions in the evening about 40 min apart.
 
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Ours ended up feet down so when waters broke at 10pm we phoned to warn them, drove in and he had been cut out by 1.30am. Say what you want about socialist health care but thats not too shabby.
 
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Only a few hours left of non-parenthood, wonder where a guy can score some h&b around here?
 
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Well someone is taking her sweet-ass time. Get your shit together baby.

Except for a couple hours to shower etc back at home, been at the hospital for about 28 hours.

At least there haven't been any real complications.
 
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That's all you can hope for really. Poor girl there at same time as my wife was having contractions but waters hadn't broken. The following night I saw her going home, still pregnant, contractions must have paused.
 
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Friday, just before 2am. 7lb 8oz, 21in. Mom and baby doing well.

Not that i thought otherwise beforehand, but pushing a baby out is no joke.
 
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