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Gavinmad

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Life changing is a good word for it. I started ADHD meds at 25 due to trouble at work, the symptoms that persisted despite the medication led to an eventual diagnosis of high functioning autism. I like to think my life would have been radically different if my parents had actually listened to the doctor and the autism had been diagnosed 20 some odd year sooner. Now in your kids case it's not necessarily so dramatic, but refusing to medicate a child with ADHD is just condemning him to be an under-achiever throughout his primary and secondary education.
 
lurkingdirk

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Gavinrad_sl said:
but refusing to medicate a child with ADHD is just condemning him to be an under-achiever throughout his primary and secondary education.
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There is more to it than just under-achieving at school. He was distressed about his lack of ability to control his impulses, resulting in very poor self image. I really don't want him growing up thinking he's broken, stupid, or bad. One of the deciding factors was when his teacher told me he's the smartest kid in the class without medication, but he's upset with himself because of his lack of impulse control, and that made him visibly depressed when repercussions (necessary in a classroom situation) came.

It comes down to giving him every chance to control himself, to learn, and to be proud of himself. His siblings are all the top of their class, bloody brilliant. And sibling competition has already set in, no matter what we do about it.

Please. Kids should come with manuals. How to make them sleep. How to make them happy. How to make them learn effectively. How to socialise them. These are real issues, and anyone who tells you they have the answer for any one of them should get punched in the nose immediately.
 
Lendarios

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So wife yesterday on valentine showed me the sticks, she had two. I really want to have a kid, i just turned 33, and wife also is not getting any younger. So lets hope everything goes well.
 
Izo

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lendarios_sl said:
So wife yesterday on valentine showed me the sticks, she had two. I really want to have a kid, i just turned 33, and wife also is not getting any younger. So lets hope everything goes well.
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Stop smoking, stop drinking, buy her a thermometer and folic acid supplements, ride now, ride now, ride for ruin and the worlds ending!
 
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I would say 5 weeks is too soon to sleep train. Coud be wrong but that is what i have heard from many medical professionals. They wont get the whole your in your bed now go to sleep thing till 2-3 mo old. We waited till 3 months and did the comfort but don't pick up every 15 min till they fall asleep method. Took about 4-5 days of me in the room with my shooting earmuffs on tilll he got the hang of it. At 5 weeks though as others said it is go with the flow. Maybe warm baths before bed that always tired my guy out.
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yeah 5 weeks is way too young for sleep training. Earliest its OK'd is 4 mos, usually 6.
 
Thengel

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We are conducting an experiment now, freezing all the breast milk and feeding the baby formula exclusively for a couple days. Figure that's an easy way to find out what's making him a fussy baby all day long. If he's better, we'll probably either switch to formula for start the eliminating things from her diet routine - that sounds like a horrible process.

On the plus side, he actually slept in his bassinet last night for long stretches, so I can sleep in my own bed now for the first time in 6 weeks. Yay!
 
Falstaff

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Speaking of formula, we just switched over to the Kirkland brand... it's about 75% cheaper than Enfamil. So far she is taking it well. Hopefully it continues cause it will save us about $100 a month.
 
Joeboo

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Yeah we still use Infamil, and while Costco is the cheapest place to buy it, it's still damn expensive. Basically comes out to about $1 per 8oz bottle of formula. Thankfully my wife breastfeeds when she's home, and pumps a little bit at work, so we only have to do like 1 or 2 bottles a day on formula, it lasts us a while.
 
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Thengel_sl said:
We are conducting an experiment now, freezing all the breast milk and feeding the baby formula exclusively for a couple days. Figure that's an easy way to find out what's making him a fussy baby all day long. If he's better, we'll probably either switch to formula for start the eliminating things from her diet routine - that sounds like a horrible process.

On the plus side, he actually slept in his bassinet last night for long stretches, so I can sleep in my own bed now for the first time in 6 weeks. Yay!
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I'd really recommend at least a week at minimum and really two would be better. Diet changes can really mess them up over just a few days.
 
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No swaddle weaning for us. Got the impression dude was just ready, stopped swaddling. Still slept exactly the same as he always has.

We are so fucked next time around. Kid that slept in his own crib through the night from jump street, no 4 or 6 month regression, even through teething? (first one broke surface Monday)

We are fucking doomed. Next kid will never ever sleep. we got ezmode sleep kid.
 
Falstaff

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We have had no sleep regression issues (yet), and other than our kid waking up in the middle of the night at very random intervals, she's been good about it since about 3 months, maybe earlier.

She popped her two bottom teeth at the same time about a month ago and a pediatric dentist we saw said that her two top teeth should be coming in any day now. She was fussy for maybe three days but who knows if that really had anything to do with her teeth or not.

I'm just hoping our next kid actually naps for more than 30 minutes at a time.
 
Joeboo

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And the bad thing is, naps really do absolutely no good for a baby unless they are about an hour or more. We usually get 1 good 1.5-2.5 hour nap out of our kid in the late morning and early afternoon, but outside of that he's usually back awake within 30 minutes when we try to put him down because he's acting tired (rubbing eyes, getting fussy). Developmentally, naps much less than an hour don't help at all.
 
Crone

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Etoille_sl said:
No swaddle weaning for us. Got the impression dude was just ready, stopped swaddling. Still slept exactly the same as he always has.

We are so fucked next time around. Kid that slept in his own crib through the night from jump street, no 4 or 6 month regression, even through teething? (first one broke surface Monday)

We are fucking doomed. Next kid will never ever sleep. we got ezmode sleep kid.
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My wife and I experienced the same thing with our first, and say the same thing. We are so doomed. haha!
 
Falstaff

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joeboo_sl said:
And the bad thing is, naps really do absolutely no good for a baby unless they are about an hour or more. We usually get 1 good 1.5-2.5 hour nap out of our kid in the late morning and early afternoon, but outside of that he's usually back awake within 30 minutes when we try to put him down because he's acting tired (rubbing eyes, getting fussy). Developmentally, naps much less than an hour don't help at all.
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Maybe. Anecdotal evidence I received in this thread (if they are tired, they'll sleep) and advice from our pediatrician say otherwise. Three to four 30-45 minute naps a day, which is where she is now, plus sleeping 10-12 hours through the night, are perfectly acceptable according to our doctor.

He didn't seem concerned at all when we told him of her sleeping patterns last month at our 6 month appointment.
 
Crone

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Eyashusa_sl said:
Speaking of formula, we just switched over to the Kirkland brand... it's about 75% cheaper than Enfamil. So far she is taking it well. Hopefully it continues cause it will save us about $100 a month.
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Switched over a long time ago when you finally realize that the ingredients are all pretty much the same, so why pay so much more?

One thing we did do, because our baby had collick (sp?) or just a gassy tummy, was use symethicone drops. Kirkland brand formula runs foamy/bubbly anyway, so the drops helped cut that down quite a bit.
 
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Joeboo

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And that is exactly why when mom & dad get dressed for work in the morning, if we pick up the kiddo we always hold him facing AWAY from us. Our kid still spits up a ton, I guess most preemies do for quite a while :/
 
OneofOne

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Haha been there! Son chucked on the back of my jacket one time, didn't know it, then sat down in my car, rubbing it all in nice and good =/
 
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