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God bless America.

Just cause a chick says she's pro-choice does NOT mean that she'll get an abortion if you knock her up. Like chaos said, be ever vigilant.

My girlfriend's been having issues with her birth control the past while, she recently changed to a new one and that gave her a rash. So she's off it for a month to let her hormones normalize or whatever, so it's back to the rubbers. Well not back, never used them with her in the first place. Fuck I hate rubbers.

Anal is the truest expression of love and non-reproductive desire. Take your relationship to the next level.

The loophole is the poophole!

Update about me:

Broke up with that one chick I talked about here a long time ago. The second time I slept with her, after she orgasmed 2 or 3 times, then asked me to cum. I was sick with a stuffy nose and a sore throat. Lights were off. I told her to get on top. This is after like 15-20 minutes of fucking. She gets on top then says "oh my god, oh my god". Turns out I made her period come 2 weeks early. Blood everywhere. Destroyed a really nice blanket and a pillow. I also didn't finish. Pretty much faded on her after that.

Fast forward to about a month ago, I messaged a girl in Philly (I'm in NY, about 160 miles away), just for the sake of her profile. Didn't expect anything. She messaged me back, and we hit things off. She's a former model, finishing up school, mother to a son that is pretty much the same age as my son, pretty much the full package of awesome. We skyped almost every night for the past month. Last week, I took a day trip down to Philly and met up with her (also trained with some world class Black Belts in BJJ... couldn't turn that down lol). We had a fantastic night, spent sight seeing, and went to a soul food spot that had some of the best fried chicken I ever ate, and watched a few live jazz bands play. Left super late, both to our dismay.

She's coming up next week, and we're pretty much alternating on seeing each other every (other) week. It really sucks she's so far away, but this shit feels so right, I can't pass up the chance of happiness. We know it'll only be a matter of time before we have to discuss the next step on someone moving. Both of us have kids, so it's a bit harder than a normal relationship to just pick up and move...

Lol you dropped a girl you were infatuated with because of a little period blood? Then become infatuated with a new girl right away? I'm so confused

Other girl was September, This one started in November. The other girl, when we were around each other in person, I just wasn't into her. The period part was like the thing that tipped the scale. I just didn't go into detail about the specifics. Sorry.

#Thisthreadishilarious. #ONlinedatingis4l0sers

Frenzied Wombat_sl said:

I'm actually convinced they have some subconscious desire to get knocked up.

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I know this quote is from a few weeks ago, but this is 100% true.

My girlfriend, who is normally a rational, sane person, was talking last week about wanting another kid after she heard a wailing beast of an infant next to us in a restaurant, she already has a 3 year old from what was essentially a 1-night stand. We don't use condoms... She takes the pill, but I know she is currently taking antibiotics... we were having sex and she asked me to cum inside her, my mind went back to our conversation the previous week in the restaurant... instant boner-kill.

edit: and because this is the grown-up forum and more on topic .... Alternate using POF.com for a few weeks and then OKCupid for a few weeks for the best results.

Celebrindal_sl said:

Other girl was September, This one started in November. The other girl, when we were around each other in person, I just wasn't into her. The period part was like the thing that tipped the scale. I just didn't go into detail about the specifics. Sorry.

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I am pretty much exactly like you in this regard. I get excited about someone (can't help it) really early on and then lose interest just as fast. It's a hard habit to break and taking things "slow" is something that does not mesh well with my personality.

No judging here, but I have leftovers in my fridge that are older than the average "relationship" length here from some of you. Dating someone different every month sounds exhausting to me. Hell, you barely know someone in just a month or two. Sure, we've all had horrible 1-off dates, but I'd guess that the women that I actually wanted to date and get to know better, I always did so for a good 6 months on average in order to really get to know them and make a judgement on long-term potential.

joeboo_sl said:

No judging here, but I have leftovers in my fridge that are older than the average "relationship" length here from some of you. Dating someone different every month sounds exhausting to me. Hell, you barely know someone in just a month or two. Sure, we've all had horrible 1-off dates, but I'd guess that the women that I actually wanted to date and get to know better, I always did so for a good 6 months on average in order to really get to know them and make a judgement on long-term potential.

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People sell themselves as something entirely different from what they are on dating websites very frequently. For instance, apparently every girl in CT likes to hike, is super fun but totally down to earth and absolutely loves their job. In truth all they want to do is complain about their job incessantly while hoping they meet someone who can show them where to hike and have no personality outside of what they think of my personality. There is a lot of slog to wade through. Why waste time dating someone for 6 months when you can tell you don't like them after 3 dates? When you date often you often date people you don't feel any kind of connection to.

Also, I wouldn't call what most people are talking about in this thread a relationship. Relationships are meaningful and reciprocal. The longest amount of time I've spent dating a woman in the past 2 years is 2 months. That isn't because I'm some playa or not ready to settle down. It's because I haven't found a woman who lights my fire.

Maybe I'm odd, but pretty much every woman I ever went out on a date with in my life, it either lasted exactly 1 date and no more, or lasted 6+ months. I'm usually a pretty good judge on the first date if someone is going to be worth spending significant more time on. I don't think I ever really dated anyone like 4 or 5 times or for a few weeks and then gave up, I'm basically all or nothing I guess.

I do have some friends that will just casually date someone that they don't really even like that much, just because they don't have anyone else to date at the moment and they're just waiting on something better to come along, and this fills the gap in-between. I couldn't ever get in to that, I'm much happier spending time alone or with friends than with a woman I'm not that in to.

Let me ask you this. You're married right? Before you met your wife did were you ever involved with a woman who you loved as much (or close to as much) as you love your wife? Even if only briefly? If you and your wife split up do you think you'd ever be able to realistically date without comparing every woman to your wife? For me, it's hard to meet someone who stacks up to my expectations. I've found the initial excitement a few times but it wore off quickly after they started to show their true selves and got comfortable around me.

1 date is not nearly enough time to figure out whether or not you are compatible with someone. It sounds to me like you were fooling yourself one way or the other into thinking you knew exactly whether each person was worth your time in the long run after meeting them for an hour or two.

I did just get married last year for the first time, at age 35, so I had plenty of long relationships previous to my wife. I'd only known her for 2 1/2 years when we got married. I had been engaged once before in my early 20s but she passed away unexpectedly, that did take a long time to get over and many years of comparing women to her, but I also had another 4 year relationship in my late 20s/early 30s where we lived together for a 3 years.

Honestly, no matter how hard you try you are always going to compare your current woman to women in your past. As much as you may try not to, it's going to happen. I figured out over the years that it's also never a fair comparison because for whatever reason we tend to mostly remember the great things in past women & relationships while blocking out the bad, and a lot of times it's easy to only dwell on the negative in the present. There's still a small part of me that looks back fondly at every woman in my past that I spent significant time with, but it seems that the longer that I'm with my wife, those past memories become less and less frequent as we make great new memories together and we focus on the future of our family.

Hell, most women barely even talk positively about their own friends, I can't imagine the hatred they store for ex-boyfriends.

Agraza_sl said:

Anal is the truest expression of love and non-reproductive desire. Take your relationship to the next level.

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Lol. We were so busy over the holidays that my wife forgot to take her birth control the last couple days. When she realized it this morning I just told her "that's ok, we can just do anal for the next week". She didn't find it as funny as I did. Although to be fair, I wasn't completely kidding even though I made it sound like I was saying it in jest...