I guess it depends on the area, but I think the pay sites are worth it. I got exactly 2 dates off of free sites in about 7 years. Hell, i got more dates than that off of myspace. But I bit the bullet and signed up for eharmoney for a couple years, and got more dates than I feel like counting right now. I think the difference is that girls on the pay sites are more serious. Or maybe I just didn't have the right kind of game to close the deal with girls on a free site.
Solution: give up living in Texas. Let the crazies secede. Quit trying to placate them, isolate them and allow their warped worldview not pollute the rest of our country. Allow them to act as a DMZ for emmigrating mexicans, which is essentially what it already does.
It's in my future, but the one great thing about DFW is that the standard of living is amazing assuming you have a triple digit IQ and don't breathe through your mouth. It is SO easy to stand out in the job market here and make bank because the general populace is so fucking ignorant and uneducated. Throw in an infrastructure that sacrifices every iota of charm and beauty for the sake of convenience, and performing errands and getting things done is incredibly easy compared to most cities that prefer parks over strip malls. I joke that Dallas was designed to facilitate/accommodate the lives of the morbidly obese and mobility impaired, as walking isn't just an option because of distance, but because in most places there aren't even sidewalks lol.. That being said, if I was to move anywhere else that I'd actually like to live (San fran, LA, San diego, Portland, seattle, Miami) I'd have to take a large pay cut as those areas actually have a significant talent pool and cost of living is higher. Of course, I'd also have more friends, wouldn't have to listen to people talk about their "bible study", live in a city that actually has some foliage, and I'd be able to enjoy quality food other than Mexican and BBQ. Basically, it comes down to money and an easy work/life balance vs everything else, and for right now money is more important.
I've had good results with eHarmony (in the Washington, D.C. region; again, it's very location-dependent). That said, my experience has shown that it is mostly full of women looking for actual relationships and there seem to be a large number of religious types on it. It's great if you're looking for that, too, but I can't see it being particularly useful if you're just looking for hook-ups or casual flings. Kind of like you mentioned, I think the more drawn-out and strictly paced nature of being matched and entering contact deters people who aren't looking for anything long-term. eHarmony's system is way more effort than it's worth if you just want to go on a few dates, drink, and bang now and then.
I dunno, it's nice to have someone to do stuff with. Hard to get motivated to go somewhere, say on a vacation, when one is solo. But then it again I recall thinking several times during a relationship that this isn't worth the hassle.
That's what bro's are for, bro. Other than sex women really are not worth the trouble. Guys are much more fun to hang out and actually do things with.
I don't think that's what it is. Men require less bullshit and are usually more funny. All things I look for in having a good time with someone. Women just aren't funny.
A lot of women with inflated egos and unrealistic expectations is what it's going to be like. More so than it already is.
