The Girls Who Broke Your Heart Thread

Kithani_sl said:

Just a thought but 22 and 27 can be two pretty different times in peoples' lives, maybe she got scared you guys might get serious, who knows though. Sounds like you're handling it well, bravo!

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Big Phoenix_sl said:

I honestly never understood the point of being in a ltr while in the military(aside from the fact uncle sam practically forces it on you). Too many out of left field variables for any woman to put up with without treating you like shit or cheating on you.

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CaughtCross_sl said:

Yeah, she was for sure in a different place/time in her life. Iv been working a career job for nearly 5 years now, she is just out of school working as a nanny ect. Just saw no signs of her wavering until that text. Really came out of left field. But this isnt my first rodeo and while sad about it trying second guess/wish it would work out will just kill me. Plus years for reading the TGWBYHT sorta helps prepare me for this.

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CaughtCross_sl said:

Been dating this girl. She is 22 just out of school. Im 27. Things seemed to be going really well. We had plans for this week and weekend. Then out of nowhere got this text today.

"Hey, I'm sorry to do this over texting but there is no way I could do this in person, I know it is cowardly but I hate the thought of hurting you. This is all new to me and I need to tell you that I think you're an amazing guy (truly you are) I just don't see this going anywhere. I appreciate all you have done. Like I said you are spectacular and some lady is going to be very lucky to have you one day, I don't want to keep you from finding her bc I am unsure of my feelings and that's not fair. Thank you for showing me there are real gentlemen still out there

I wish you the best and Im so sorry."

Just really blindsided me as this seemed to be one of the best relationships iv had. I figure try to analyze what the heck happened will just kill. Just gotta suck it up and move on as I have no choice. Just the shock from going great to goodbye caught me off guard. And finally get to share in the TGWBHT.

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Chesire_sl said:

She found someone who can keep her in luxury and pay off her student loans. Be glad she used you for a booty call and move on with your life

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Ignatius_sl said:

Getting this off my chest here because the people in my life are sick of hearing about this train wreck after ten years.

I met this girl in high school. We didn't really date, we were just really good friends. Our senior year, we started dating and things were great. Then she cheated. I didn't talk to her afterwards. We went to different schools. After a while, we made contact again.

I left KSU after getting injured to the point where I couldnt play anymore because fuck Kansas and came back to Dallas where she went to school.

We dated on and off, but something always happened. A fight, a break...whatever. I really did love her though, so I would always tell myself give it another chance.

One summer, she went to D.C. for some internship and I got a call about not wanting to do a long distance relationship. That's when I noticed another guy. He asked her dad for permission to date her, and the dad apparently fell in love with this guy, moving him to Dallas, getting him a pretty good job, etc.

I confronted her about it and was told they werent dating, so things went back to normal for us. Then I get a call at work two years ago, that she had news for me. She was engaged.

I nearly lost it, refusing to believe it. A week later she told me over lunch she didnt intend to go through with it and was just trying to figure out how to break it off. The excuses kept piling up how her family set this up, and its what they wanted, etc.

She got married last June. I was probably at the lowest point in my life ever. The night of, I got the drunkest I've ever been, threw my phone out the window and passed out (very expensive mistake, dont recommend). I woke up to 5 different groups of people banging my door down to see if I was alive (first my brother who she had called, then my mom, then my best friend, then my apartment complex because someone called them and told them they thought I was dead, and finally another ex of mine).

I didn't speak to her again. If I had known it was her number calling me when I answered, maybe I would be better off today. We talked, and she told me how miserable she was, and how she made such a terrible mistake and realized she wanted to be with me.

But she would never break it off. I remember asking her how could she possibly do it now, if she couldn't before she got married.

It's been almost a year, for a while things were getting intense between us again, but she would never break it off with this guy.I told her 3 days ago to show me divorce papers or leave me alone.

I know the advice, I know what to do. It just hurts, and it has been for a long time. I feel like a complete shitcan of a human being because every time I've dated someone else, I've known in my heart that if I had a chance I'd jump back to her without hesitation.

anyway, sorry to derail from much more interesting stories about hookers, I just really needed to vent. Fight the good fight J49.

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Ignatius_sl said:

Getting this off my chest here because the people in my life are sick of hearing about this train wreck after ten years.

I met this girl in high school. We didn't really date, we were just really good friends. Our senior year, we started dating and things were great. Then she cheated. I didn't talk to her afterwards. We went to different schools. After a while, we made contact again.

I left KSU after getting injured to the point where I couldnt play anymore because fuck Kansas and came back to Dallas where she went to school.

We dated on and off, but something always happened. A fight, a break...whatever. I really did love her though, so I would always tell myself give it another chance.

One summer, she went to D.C. for some internship and I got a call about not wanting to do a long distance relationship. That's when I noticed another guy. He asked her dad for permission to date her, and the dad apparently fell in love with this guy, moving him to Dallas, getting him a pretty good job, etc.

I confronted her about it and was told they werent dating, so things went back to normal for us. Then I get a call at work two years ago, that she had news for me. She was engaged.

I nearly lost it, refusing to believe it. A week later she told me over lunch she didnt intend to go through with it and was just trying to figure out how to break it off. The excuses kept piling up how her family set this up, and its what they wanted, etc.

She got married last June. I was probably at the lowest point in my life ever. The night of, I got the drunkest I've ever been, threw my phone out the window and passed out (very expensive mistake, dont recommend). I woke up to 5 different groups of people banging my door down to see if I was alive (first my brother who she had called, then my mom, then my best friend, then my apartment complex because someone called them and told them they thought I was dead, and finally another ex of mine).

I didn't speak to her again. If I had known it was her number calling me when I answered, maybe I would be better off today. We talked, and she told me how miserable she was, and how she made such a terrible mistake and realized she wanted to be with me.

But she would never break it off. I remember asking her how could she possibly do it now, if she couldn't before she got married.

It's been almost a year, for a while things were getting intense between us again, but she would never break it off with this guy.I told her 3 days ago to show me divorce papers or leave me alone.

I know the advice, I know what to do. It just hurts, and it has been for a long time. I feel like a complete shitcan of a human being because every time I've dated someone else, I've known in my heart that if I had a chance I'd jump back to her without hesitation.

anyway, sorry to derail from much more interesting stories about hookers, I just really needed to vent. Fight the good fight J49.

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