The Girls Who Broke Your Heart Thread

Conefed said:

My wife conned me good. Instead of perfect match, she's psycho.
She spits vitriol so easily. It shuts me down Everytime. Just want to sleep and feel like shit for days.

Today, two bros of 20+ years and I are planning for our first father-son camping weekend. Been excited about this most my life. My dad did it with me.
We've been planning over the past year. This coming weekend is it.
She bursts in and tells me I'm not going. She then calls her brother that I'm planning a trip with my friends to be alone in the woods with little boys.

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Conefed said:

I'm still trying to figure it out myself.
conformity, duty, and obligation certainly have a hand.

but I think the classic "known vs unknown" mechanic is in play also. it gets shitty for me, it really does. it may even lead to me offing myself. but like all my relationships have been a brand of fucking terrible and the next could be worse. likewise, the stay alone and take on complete burdens of everyday life isn't optimal either.
she at least does chores for the most part

her episodes are almost the new normal. for example, the next day after that she made breakfast and we went strawberry picking like nothing happened. but a guarantee you the points that specifically upset her haven't left (regardless of merit)

i'm not there yet// haven't figured it out.

I just know she breaks my heart, yet I unconditionally love

hate for me is not the answer. I think if a build enough evidence to convince myself it's better for everybody .. I don't know.

I think her and her crazy mother will crank it up to boss level should I split and I fear for my son. One thought is moving an inconvenient amount of distance away (with child) for the first few years. dunno

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