Fucker
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Whats rustling your jimmies?
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Aamry
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Cut him a deal, like the one you mentioned, since he's family. But not nothing. Explain that it's motivation for him to not get too comfortable, he can't live at home forever.
Also, this should have been worked out prior to him moving back in, unless it was an emergency.
Also, this should have been worked out prior to him moving back in, unless it was an emergency.
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I think that's more than reasonable if you're including food/utilities. It depends on how much you want to teach him. If he brings home $4k a month, you could reasonably charge him 20-30% of his monthly pay for rent alone, then add on a piece of the utilities, and let him source his own food. That would get him used to the real world.
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Burren
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Mr_Bungle
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I think that's completely reasonable, my folks did something similar a few years back when I was around his age. I was just grateful for any kind of renting deal after paying off my car loan.
Sludig
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too cheap. thats very decent money he's making if your not in expensive California. Pretty much fully subsidizing him. After food/ utility that's pretty much 500 month rent when he brings home 8x that.
Brahma
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It was an emergency. We didn't talk about it, so I made the cost low. I thought this was more than a deal.
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Cad
scientia potentia est
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My $0.02, I wouldn't charge him money to live with you because then this becomes expressly transactional and you don't involve money with family or friends unless you want to lose them as family or friends.
I'd give him chores and things to do around the house to contribute. I.e. mow the yard, wash the cars, buy certain groceries, stuff like that. It'll add up to the same amount but won't seem transactional and won't be a dad asking the kid to pay when the kid makes $50-60k/yr. He'll view this as dad building his character rather than dad being a cheap ass trying to get me started while I'm struggling. (Not saying you are being, just how kids see things).
I'm not sure on the exact format but I'd do something like that to help him out but not have it be a free hotel situation.
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Cad
scientia potentia est
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Also a solid plan - only reason I wouldn't do this is I saw this play out with a cousin and his mom. They ended up fighting about how she was holding thousands of his dollars and he needed X Y Z, why can't she release that money?
With family or friends you should only involve yourself with money if you are giving gifts. If it's not gifts, I wouldn't get involved, or I'd act like a parent (provide services/housing in return for chores/accomplishments). I just only see that going one way and it won't be for the benefit of the relationship. I could be wrong.
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Siliconemelons
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You dont tell them they will get it back at the end….
I love my kids, but they should only be dependents for so long.
Doing chores and paying for food is what should naturally occur as a resident of anywhere you are residing - parents house or not.
Paying rent to parents is 100 how it should be if they left and returned or have reached a certain age.
52k a year is decent in almost a good 85% the country… not living it up, but not the poor house… its also not mcdonalds its most likely a “real job”
and he made poor Brahma go enjoy his cigars out in a tent now that he has no man cave room!
I love my kids, but they should only be dependents for so long.
Doing chores and paying for food is what should naturally occur as a resident of anywhere you are residing - parents house or not.
Paying rent to parents is 100 how it should be if they left and returned or have reached a certain age.
52k a year is decent in almost a good 85% the country… not living it up, but not the poor house… its also not mcdonalds its most likely a “real job”
and he made poor Brahma go enjoy his cigars out in a tent now that he has no man cave room!
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OneofOne
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We did this, never again. I ended up in jail over night, had to rent another home for a month for my wife and I to move into, and came back to find thousands of dollars of damage to my house. Wife's son had a mental fucking breakdown or some shit, and we HAD to give him 30 days notice (fuck you Commiefornia). No one is allowed to stay in our home longer than 2 nights other than our parents if they travel out here.
And then something similar happened to my wife's co-worker. You just never know.
And then something similar happened to my wife's co-worker. You just never know.
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Kithani
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Congrats homie! You just added a reason I never had kids, I need to add that to my list........
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OneofOne
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Last we heard he's mooching off other family members in another state who have grown tired of his entitled ass and were getting ready to kick him out (if they haven't already).
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Void
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This was a long long time ago, but when I had to move back in for a time after college, my parents charged me $200 a month, which wasn't a lot even back then (normal rent would have been maybe $700 for a single bedroom...this is California, so yeah). They charged me more so that I was paying *something* and to cover shit like water and electricity bills going up, and they always fed me if I wanted. The intent of me moving back in was to save money, not because I had nowhere else to go, so perhaps that affected their decision, but unless you yourself are struggling I would say to charge him a token fee, make him do a bunch of chores and shit, and help him get back out on his own as quickly as possible (for both of your sakes).
Although maybe $750 is today's equivalent of that $200, I can't really say. I mean, I spend $100/week on food easily, so if you're feeding him completely maybe your number is reasonable when you add in utilities and general inconvenience. But whatever value you decide upon, I'd make it as low as you are comfortable with, along with the understanding that he should be striving to get out as quickly as realistic.
Although maybe $750 is today's equivalent of that $200, I can't really say. I mean, I spend $100/week on food easily, so if you're feeding him completely maybe your number is reasonable when you add in utilities and general inconvenience. But whatever value you decide upon, I'd make it as low as you are comfortable with, along with the understanding that he should be striving to get out as quickly as realistic.
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