Marriage and the Power of Divorce

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Ortega_sl said:
You're living in la la land bro. Too many movies lol. Something like 10% of women and 20% of men have over 15 partners during the course of their life, and you think the low end average is 10-20 at the ripe old age of 30???
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Fifey can afford a $50 hooker every two weeks. If it wasn't for repeats he would be getting 25 a year.

I once knew a guy who claimed to have boned 70 different hookers during 1 year that he was stationed in Amsterdam with the Air Force.
 
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BrutulTM_sl said:
Fifey can afford a $50 hooker every two weeks. If it wasn't for repeats he would be getting 25 a year.

I once knew a guy who claimed to have boned 70 different hookers during 1 year that he was stationed in Amsterdam with the Air Force.
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I have a friend who does this. Single guy, doesn't like hanging out with woman, doesn't want anything but to have some sex and go back to his normal life. He takes a vacation once or twice a year to places where he has a few different girls every day, over the course of a couple weeks out of every year, yeah, I can easily see those numbers. Especially in places where you can essentially rent a girlfriend for $2 a day, aka the places he goes. I hear nothing but good things about Cambodia.

On top of that, he frequesnts massage parlors here in the states for his short term relief, but I guess thats closer to $100-$200 per visit.
 
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lindz_sl said:
Wanting to fuck and wanting to marry can be two different things.

I'd want to fuck the guy that has been with a lot of women because he'd likely be awesome in bed.

I'd want to marry the guy I know can be monogamous. Then you teach them how to be awesome in bed!
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Sexual chemistry isn't something you can necessarily teach. If the two of you have different enough desires and needs in the bedroom it's just never going to happen. You'd be assuming you could make it work but I'd say more times than not it's a lost cause. And the problem just gets exacerbated even more the older you get. Can't teach an old dog new tricks and such.

I know a girl who refuses to ever do doggy style. She says "I'm not a dog". I say "Well you're not a missionary either, so I guess we're at an impasse". I'm sure she could find a guy who doesn't like doggy style either. But that's gonna be tough.
 
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You got locked down at 19 with a guy in that age range. You're not really a valid example. I've already aired my history elsewhere and now as I'm just starting 30 I'm completely fucked in the dating market because of the 0 partner tag if a woman were to find out.

You completely fail to consciously admit that a virgin male past 20 is utterly repulsive. Call it misogyny or whatever you want to label it but you're not actually suffering anything as a female in this world. The 80% of the invisible to women male population is. And behind closed doors to you as well (out of sight, out of mind).
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You may be right. I don't know what would appeal to me as a single woman in my late 20s. I know I like the idea of a man only having been with me, but again my neurosis.

I still don't think it would be as much of a problem as "repulsive". Women find conquest fulfilling too and there is something appealing about taking someone's virginity. Is is more difficult, probably, because as other have said, the lack of confidence. Some women might like the lack of confidence, some women might like the conquest... who knows.
 
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fifey_sl said:
I get tested regularly and as of two months ago, I'm bump free. That whole one in four people have stds is a crock of shit, if you believe that, you probably also believe marijuana is dangerous.
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It's not a crock of shit. HPV is an STI my friend. Plus life in the ghetto is a different animal.
 
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Khane_sl said:
Sexual chemistry isn't something you can necessarily teach. If the two of you have different enough desires and needs in the bedroom it's just never going to happen. You'd be assuming you could make it work but I'd say more times than not it's a lost cause. And the problem just gets exacerbated even more the older you get. Can't teach an old dog new tricks and such.

I know a girl who refuses to ever do doggy style. She says "I'm not a dog". I say "Well you're not a missionary either, so I guess we're at an impasse". I'm sure she could find a guy who doesn't like doggy style either. But that's gonna be tough.
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Nah I know, I was just making light of the situation. Sexual compatability is definitely a thing. It doesn't really have to do with number of partners though imo.

But honestly, I don't know if being good at sex isn't something you can teach. Obviously is someone just refuses to try anything I guess you're out of luck. But even if someone isn't good, if they are are willing to experiment and open to suggestion, you can get some pretty good results.

Sometimes when my husband and I try something new, it isn't super good, but play around with it some more, be open about it, it can get pretty darn good. Just saying, I know not everyone is super open about sex.
 
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You and your husband are sexually compatible. When it starts out awkward, every time you try to make it work it's also going to be awkward. If it starts out decent, but maybe just a little vanilla (as Deathwing puts it) then you have something to work with. So basically, you can't teach someone who you feel is legitimately bad to be good (for you) in bed, you have nothing to build from. Unless they are a virgin and just don't know anything about what they like. But past a certain age, that really is never the case.

Try picturing a new relationship where the first few times you have sex with someone it's just not good... at all. You think you're going to want to put the time and effort into trying to make it work? It's a lot different out there in singles world.
 
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Khane_sl said:
You and your husband are sexually compatible. When it starts out awkward, every time you try to make it work it's also going to be awkward. If it starts out decent, but maybe just a little vanilla (as Deathwing puts it) then you have something to work with. So basically, you can't teach someone who you feel is legitimately bad to be good (for you) in bed, you have nothing to build from. Unless they are a virgin and just don't know anything about what they like. But past a certain age, that really is never the case.

Try picturing a new relationship where the first few times you have sex with someone it's just not good... at all. You think you're going to want to put the time and effort into trying to make it work? It's a lot different out there in singles world.
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And that is why Utah has such high porn consumption rates!
 
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Trollface_sl said:
what if your woman just doesn't like sex.
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Why the fuck would you be with someone who doesn't like sex? That's like saying you don't like french fries. Who the fuck doesn't like french fries? You can't trust someone who doesn't like french fries.
 
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Khane_sl said:
Why the fuck would you be with someone who doesn't like sex? That's like saying you don't like french fries. Who the fuck doesn't like french fries? You can't trust someone who doesn't like french fries.
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Sometimes girls are force fed French fries and it kind of ruins the whole thing for them.
 
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Couples where both members have very low sex drive do exist. So they can find their match. If you have a normal or high sex drive, better steer clear of that kind of individual tho, that can only end badly.
 
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fifey_sl said:
I get tested regularly and as of two months ago, I'm bump free. That whole one in four people have stds is a crock of shit, if you believe that, you probably also believe marijuana is dangerous.
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Most people that have the herp or HPV never know it because they are asymptomatic. Although being asymptomatic wouldn't defeat the tests of course.
 
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Leadsalad_sl said:
High partner count on both ends is a red flag, yes.

But a woman at 0 and a man at 0 are also seen completely differently by the opposite sex.

Men see a woman with 0-3 lifetime partners as relatively stable and attractive. 0 isn't a huge red flag as compared to men where it is essentially a death knell for their ability to elicit sex from the opposite sex.

Virgin females are still desireable. Virgin males are never desireable outside of idiotic religious requirements.
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I kinda think you have that one backwards. Virgins are not anything resembling sexually desirable unless you're like 14 too. In fact I'd say it's those religious requirements that make them desirable. Pure! Forbidden! Unspoiled!

Horse shit.

But all kidding aside, I don't think it does a lot of good to question too deeply about the sexual past. Clerks got it about right with, "Try not to suck any dicks on the way through the parking lot!" You are never going to hear anything that you both needed to know and wanted to hear. You might hear one or the other, but not both. The only questions that are relevant are questions about disease and lingering attachment. Neither of which you have to count the cocks to answer.

I honestly don't know what # I was for the past two women I've had relations with. Its silly to use it as a personality indicator. Not because it isn't one, but because you should have already made those assessments LONG before you get into the "smell my finger" game.
 
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