This is why I say you guys are confused.
The reason I am "part" of this community is via let's call her Alpha Dominatrix. This is the one I had a few sessions with, got invited to parties, sex clubs and weekends away with her. All this time she was with the BF, was quite vocal that he was jealous, we have chemistry etc.
Then this time last year we went away for a few nights after lockdown 1 and had the hotel room orgy. That was genuinely the "peak" of my interactions with her.
Since then I started going over there every 4-6 weeks for fetish parties and filming. In November I met a crazy goth chick there and we hooked up over one weekend and several nights, and I made plans to go back for the NYE fetish party and to see goth chick.
I kicked goth chick out my airbnb at 5am because 2 nights of 3 she got stupidly drunk. Went to NYE party solo and extended my stay there because UK was in lockdown 3, ended up staying there for 10 weeks. Was out every weekend with Alpha Domme, hooked up with her friend/colleague - lets call her Domme 2 the first weekend, had a few dates then came home in mid Feb.
Alpha Domme and me haven't really spent any time together in any great amount since last Summer. She told me she wanted me to come to the wedding and she was the one inviting me out every weekend. I genuinely believe we are close friends and she cares for me.
She knows I arranged plans with goth chick, I told her I kicked goth chick out...she didn't understand my explanation of "got drunk and got annoying" so asked a mutual friend of goth chicks if he understood. He explained that he once had to babysit goth chick after a night out because she was talking about finding someone to kill (she also told me she nearly killed someone once).
She also knows I like and was pursuing Domme 2. Her Country is basically fully open now and after Ibiza I will go back there for 6 weeks. Who knows what will happen with either Domme 2 or Alpha Domme.
My position on Alpha Domme is, if we are drunk and things get crazy again then great. If she wants a 3some with me and Domme 2, great.
It's Ibiza, anything could happen
EDIT: I'm in the best shape of my life, my body fat is single digits. I haven't masturbated for four weeks, I meditate daily, I've found a fashion style that works for me and is unique. This is what min maxing IRL looks like