Marriage and the Power of Divorce

Tarrant · Apr 9, 2015

Iannis_sl said:
No contact is best. When it's over, it's over. The thing is the thing.

I can only imagine the nagging hell of being divorced with children in common.

Yeah, that can suck but over time you just learn to accept your ex is retarded and move on.

Frenzied Wombat · Apr 9, 2015

Khane_sl said:
I've found that total no contact is always the best way to get over a break up. That whole cordial thing just seems to drag out the inevitable, which is one or the other still having residual feelings and the one who doesn't having to cut the cord anyway because it's obvious being just friends isn't possible.

Agreed, if only because it causes major problems with the next chick. Maintaining friends with your ex is typically an intolerable situation for the next woman in your life. You'll always get fed the line that "I'm not one of those girls, I have no problem with my BF having female friends", but as soon as she's really into you, that narrative quickly changes and crazy jealousy kicks in.

Haast · Apr 9, 2015

Frenzied Wombat_sl said:
You'll always get fed the line that "I'm not one of those girls, I have no problem with my BF having female friends", but as soon as she's really into you, that narrative quickly changes and crazy jealousy kicks in.

I didn't even get fed the line, the current ladyfriend was truthful and told me she hopes I rarely if ever talk to my ex. Me too, ladyfriend. Me too.

Selix · Apr 9, 2015

Filed today. This shit is hard on a person. So far we are going through a mediator and have agreed on everything. They are going to draw up all we agreed to (not much really we already split all the assets we wanted) and in a week sign and notarize. it. They are going to do the Indiana Child Support calculator themselves based on the given information and it's mostly out of their control anyway but i'll find out how much their numbers differ from my numbers in a week.

Haast · Apr 9, 2015

Selix_sl said:
Filed today. This shit is hard on a person. So far we are going through a mediator and have agreed on everything. They are going to draw up all we agreed to (not much really we already split all the assets we wanted) and in a week sign and notarize. it. They are going to do the Indiana Child Support calculator themselves based on the given information and it's mostly out of their control anyway but i'll find out how much their numbers differ from my numbers in a week.

On the bright side, mediation and/or peaceful agreement with lawyer sign-offs is SO MUCH CHEAPER than fighting it out tooth and nail. Make sure you run into a very expensive roadblock before going to war (if it goes downhill).

Cad · Apr 9, 2015

No no, fight it out tooth and nail! We attorneys have your best interests in mind!*

* And we like money

stupidmonkey · Apr 9, 2015

Cad_sl said:
No no, fight it out tooth and nail! We attorneys have your best interests in mind!*

* And we like money

And we at rerolled love to hear the stories that come along with it.

Big Phoenix · Apr 9, 2015

Iannis_sl said:
But she should be blonde and he should have black Don Draper hair.

That ended in divorce. ..

Hoss · Apr 9, 2015

DickTrickle_sl said:
I'm not upset, I just find it all somewhat odd and interesting. I don't think the characterizations I've been making are inaccurate; I just have a hard time relating. I honestly do think for many of these people it is actually more fulfilling than trying to have a real relationship would be (as others have either said or alluded to). It's somewhat fascinating, even.

Maybe you are unaware that people with real relationships still use hookers.

The Master · Apr 9, 2015

Khane_sl said:
I've found that total no contact is always the best way to get over a break up. That whole cordial thing just seems to drag out the inevitable, which is one or the other still having residual feelings and the one who doesn't having to cut the cord anyway because it's obvious being just friends isn't possible.

I mean, it was cordial for a year. So this comes as something of a surprise.

Tarrant · Apr 9, 2015

The Master_sl said:
I mean, it was cordial for a year. So this comes as something of a surprise.

It happens.

DickTrickle · Apr 9, 2015

Hoss_sl said:
Maybe you are unaware that people with real relationships still use hookers.

Wow, really? Thanks!

If you were paying attention, I was specifically referring to those who buy hookers over dating as a long term choice.

Though, if people in relationships are hiring hookers, it's probably not a terribly fulfilling real relationship there either.

iannis · Apr 10, 2015

Big Phoenix_sl said:
That ended in divorce. ..

SPOILERS. JEEZ.

Izo · Apr 12, 2015

Elsebet · Apr 13, 2015

DickTrickle_sl said:
Though, if people in relationships are hiring hookers, it's probably not a terribly fulfilling real relationship there either.

There are people who are satisfied with all aspects of a relationship except the frequency or type of sex. For those people, legal prostitution would be a godsend to get their needs met while still maintaining an otherwise happy relationship. Sometimes sex lulls are temporary in an otherwise happy relationship, another area where legal prostitution can help. I stress the word legal, because the illegal version present in most places today is a really harmful industry.

Big Phoenix · Apr 13, 2015

That doesnt make any sense. If you arent having sex and it isnt because of a medical reason or schedule issues, that isnt a happy relationship and theres something wrong.

Khane · Apr 13, 2015

Big Phoenix_sl said:
That doesnt make any sense. If you arent having sex and it isnt because of a medical reason or schedule issues, that isnt a happy relationship and theres something wrong.

That's not true, sometimes people are happy with each other in every way except for physically. So you can part ways because that one aspect is no longer satisfying or you can fulfill it elsewhere while still being with someone you consider your companion.

Deathwing · Apr 13, 2015

If only most humans could easily separate sex and feelings they often associate with it. Part of my brain can realize that's normal and should expected that my wife would want to fuck other people. I could even tell her that's ok, we talk about it beforehand, lay out some ground rules, and she follows them exactly. And then I'd still get mad afterwards. Fuck, our brains are stupid sometimes.

Khane · Apr 13, 2015

Deathwing_sl said:
If only most humans could easily separate sex and feelings they often associate with it. Part of my brain can realize that's normal and should expected that my wife would want to fuck other people. I could even tell her that's ok, we talk about it beforehand, lay out some ground rules, and she follows them exactly. And then I'd still get mad afterwards. Fuck, our brains are stupid sometimes.

Some people can, some can't. People who can aren't in an unhappy relationship automatically just because they sleep with other people as Phoenix was suggesting. That will work for some people, and for others it won't.

Big Phoenix · Apr 13, 2015

Khane_sl said:
That's not true, sometimes people are happy with each other in every way except for physically. So you can part ways because that one aspect is no longer satisfying or you can fulfill it elsewhere while still being with someone you consider your companion.

Yeah theres a reason why open relationships and swinging isnt the norm.

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