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Marriage and the Power of Divorce
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moonarchia
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Hey, dickheads, Grownup Forum rules, remember? Noodle is trying to get some serious feedback here, let's show a little respect for a longtime forum bro while we respect the spirit of the grownup section, OK?
Get it together.
Get it together.
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Blazin
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Had lunch with my daughter yesterday and she told me she thinks she is getting engaged soon. Been with my wife 30 years this summer and just really hitting me how much time has passed. Both children becoming adults 21/24 , my parents beginning to fade. Can feel the next life transition beginning. We are going to need a "I'm a grandparent!" thread soon over the next 10 years could start happening for a good many I suspect, and we have noodle here talking about potentially having another child which I just can't fathom at this point.
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Cad
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Being a grandparent sounds both awesome and scary as fuck. My oldest is about the same age as yours.
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moonarchia
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I was semiserious about just getting the snip done on the down low. If you aren't going to do the right thing, which you already know is having the adult conversation with her, then at least protect your goal of not having a 3rd kid.
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When I asked my FIL if I could marry his daughter (to which he just responded “sure”) apparently my now wife happened to walk through a nearby hallway (I thought she was in the shower) and overheard the end of the conversation with me sounding very relieved and saying “well that was anticlimactic” and knew it was coming lol - didn’t tell me for a year or two later
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That sounds like a great way for your wife to end up resenting you forever once she finds out
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My oldest is 22 and he's been with his GF for 2 or 3 years now. They both live with me so not sure where they are in their timeline, but they both know they are welcome to live here forever if they want to and they seem pretty serious about each other. No kids coming soon either way, she gets the shot every few months as prevention.
My daughter is gay, so no kids there.
My youngest son is 14, so hopefully no kids in his future for a very long time lol.
I miss babies, I miss watching them grow. If my wife and I could have another kid when we got together we would have, but medically that's not possible. I can't wait for grand kids.
My daughter is gay, so no kids there.
My youngest son is 14, so hopefully no kids in his future for a very long time lol.
I miss babies, I miss watching them grow. If my wife and I could have another kid when we got together we would have, but medically that's not possible. I can't wait for grand kids.
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My daughter potentially getting married has me pretty stressed. I'm quite close with my daughter and this guy isn't a bad guy, my issue is that he is 25 and want to join the military. Already has a degree and it just seems like a poorly thought out idea that may be his desire but doesn't seem a good choice for my daughter. She has a good job and he is going to want to drag her off to some AFB somewhere that she will need to find work, likely delaying children longer than she wants. It could be some place she hates and govt is not going to give them any guarantees. I'm trying super hard to not overly come down on the idea, what I tell her carries a lot of weight and I'm trying to respect that, it's her life but it's eating at me. It seems to me that he is putting himself above her and I just can't stop thinking about that.
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That she loves him and wants to support him and that it would "only be 4 years" . I'm not sure that part is even true, I'd have to some digging depending on which MOS i believe some of the officer positions they want more than 4. He comes from a military family and there is high family pressure for military service, his father just passed away rather suddenly and it seems to have solidified his feeling that he must do this
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Yeah, some branches may be different but usually, you're looking at a commitment of 8. Depending on his branch and what his job is though, he could never have to worry about deployment. I have some Navy buddies that have never stepped foot on a boat or foreign soil. They go to work just the same as anyone else. With all the job and funding cuts happening right now, I don't see the military being apart of that anytime soon. Seems like it could be one of the more stable routes to go in all honesty.
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Yea you definitely don't want your daughter marrying someone who is already successful and takes duty and legacy seriously. Better she find someone who can more easily accommodate your preferences, like maybe a retail store manager trainee?
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I at no time said I didn't want her to marry him and my expectations are high. It's not financially a good decision, he is a good dude and I support him from a character point of view. He wants to go to graduate school after service, so now we are talking about being mid 30s and you are just getting going? That is below my expectations, I was a millionare debt free by my 30s. I want a guy who works his ass off to provide and the young man energy is at it's peak right now for him.
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My guy, do you read this before you post it? Do you have children? He is understandably concerned about what seems to be a poor decision made by two young adults that do not have the life experience to properly evaluate the consequences of a decision. It is especially weird when he made ALL of the decisions for her over a 14-18 year period in order to give her the best chance to *not* make poorly thought out decisions. Cut him some slack.
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