Cutlery
Kill All the White People
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Marriage and the Power of Divorce
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Seananigans
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Yeah or if you don’t want him on here, you could just call him a faggot 20x daily and come away with the same basic result.
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Izo
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That's what you get for abusing your amod powers. But seriously, didn't you sell your doge and put it as a downpayment for a house? How is that poor? Or did your previous wifes make claims?
Noodleface
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Meh it's only a couple guys here that talk about it. Most likely everyone else is middle class,.but that's boring.
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Kirun
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Tell him if he doesn't start posting here, he's a real faggot.
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300Lane1
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What are the details on this? How much were you putting in monthly? Into what (deferred comp, brokerage account)?
Gurgeh
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Same here, had 3 kids between 36 and 42 and I'm now 44. I can clearly make a lot more money now than at 30, and I do, same for the wife. But having 3 young kids do take a lot of time and energy. So, even from a money point of view, it’s a losing strategy imo. I wish I had them 10 year earliers. It makes a lot more sense. Even from a career perspective. And if my third kid, the only male, has his kids at the same age as me.. put quite the pressure to stay healthy to get to know the grand kids.
My wife is bit younger than me, and my eldest daughter was able to meet and with 2 of her great grand fathers. One of those had a great great grandson before he died. I'm a bit jealous, considering that some of us, many of our generation in fact, will not even know their grandkids...
We, and especialy the women, were sold lies in our 20’s and it sucks.
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OU Ariakas
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I tell every co-worker that I have that is in their 20's that waiting for kids is a mistake because you'll never be ready and you will have plenty of time to live it up when you are older and better off once they are out of the house. Shit, then you can go on vacations with your adult children and enjoy them more.
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Cutlery
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I remember getting an absolute heap of shit on this very board when I said I had my oldest at 21.
She'll be 24 in a couple months here and I couldn't be happier. It wasn't all my idea though. My parents were 22 and 19 when they had me, and the year after I moved out they had their house paid off and basically unlimited income and unlimited time.
I'm not at that point, because the world has changed quite a bit in 45 years, but I still made the right call. I'm not even with their mom anymore, but that's fine too. Now the new gal gets to reap the rewards for putting in no effort. She won the lottery.
She'll be 24 in a couple months here and I couldn't be happier. It wasn't all my idea though. My parents were 22 and 19 when they had me, and the year after I moved out they had their house paid off and basically unlimited income and unlimited time.
I'm not at that point, because the world has changed quite a bit in 45 years, but I still made the right call. I'm not even with their mom anymore, but that's fine too. Now the new gal gets to reap the rewards for putting in no effort. She won the lottery.
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BrutulTM
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I have a neighbor that babysat her great-great-grandkids. I think the oldest was 10 when she died. Not many people get to do that. Their family just all get married right out of high school and start having kids. She was the same age as my grandparents and they snuck in a whole generation on us. The parents of those great-great-grandkids have a decent chance of being grandparents before they turn 40 if their oldest daughter follows the family pattern.
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Cad
scientia potentia est
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We had our kids at 27, 29, and 36... and I wish I'd had the third one sooner. People don't realize how nice your 40's can be with grown or almost grown children.
I mean the risk of having one at 21 isn't so much that you're so young, it's more that the relationship with the mom might not be stable, which from your description appears to be the case. The person you have kids with is the most important decision of your life.
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Daidraco
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Telling my ex all the time that I dont want kids was probably one of the things that drove her away. Low and behold after its all said and done and I have my life in order, I want kids now. Constantly have people telling me that "youre still young enough to have kids" which thats like some sideways compliment in my head, but whatever. The only problem now is.. Im dating the type of women you dated in your 20's ... in my late 30's, again. Cause I dated them in my 20's when I was in the military, too.
Something about "those" types of girls just does it for me. The ones that arent fucked in the head are just.. fuck, they are so fucking hard to hold a conversation with. I dont know if its me, or I just find them extremely fucking boring. But regardless, Im fucked. Just.. fucked, when it comes to finding the "right one."
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Maybe it’s too early to say for sure, but having my first child at 39 was the “right” thing for me. Spending my 20s and early 30s traveling and casually dating lots of women was fun and opened my eyes to what I wanted in a wife. Not sure if I was mature enough to be a good dad in my early 20s. Time will tell if I have regrets waiting so long.
Cutlery
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We were together for 18 years. I don't regret much. My kids are great (well, oldest is amazing, the youngest is 13 and going thru that phase that girls go thru. She'll open her eyes eventually, hopefully). And underrated benefit - having a steady piece in your 20's is something kids these days can only dream of.
I'll be 50 and both my kids will be grown and I can do whatever I want whenever I want. Should have plenty of money, should have nothing but the house left for debt, still in good shape, should be a fun time.
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moonarchia
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The right one is playing Pantheon. So log in and start grinding!
Semiserious about that. Find someone who enjoys some of the more important and time consuming hobbies you have. Shared passions outside the bedroom help.
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Noodleface
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I wish we were more financially stable when we were younger so we could've had kids younger, but I started my career really late in life.
Sometimes I think back to when we had our oldest and how little I made and im so surprised we actually made it. I make over 150% more than what I made just 9 years ago
Sometimes I think back to when we had our oldest and how little I made and im so surprised we actually made it. I make over 150% more than what I made just 9 years ago
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Palum
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OU Ariakas
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This is the thing; you could've had kids younger with less money and you'd be saying the exact same things. Humans have been having kids when they lived in caves and hunted/gathered. You (and I, and all of us) could have had a good life making a low wage with a kid because you had the willpower and determination to do whatever it took to provide a life for them. That is all it takes, understanding that your wants and desires will be tempered by your duty to provide.
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