I maintain that you guys are just at a different point in your life. You may or may not be correct in your assessment of Tanoomba, though, given his whole championing feminism shtick. The current batch of feminists are as harmful to women as misogynists, at least on a societal level.
You're talking about the wrong feminists, or you're working with the wrong definition of feminism.
So you guys had LAN parties with you and a few of the "gals" every other weekend? Stayed up until 4am drinking beer and playing poker/pool? Went fishing together? Answered all phone calls with "What's up, dipshit?" etc.? If you weren't, you were engaging them on almost an entirely feminine level. So, you're either entirely too feminine for your own good or emotionally needy as fuck. Got it.
Ah, I think I get what's wrong here. If you aren't swinging your dick around chugging beer while the football game is on, then you're a girly girl. See, I don't have a problem watching movies, drinking beer, listening to music, making art, playing video games, shooting the shit or just doing whatever with female friends. I guess you'd consider me "too feminine", but this 20th century "boys do boy shit, girls do girl shit" insecurity/closet homosexuality never held much weight for me.
I don't look down on them. They're chicks. That's what they are. I won't deny any less than flattering accusations towards males if they are accurate. I accept what they are, they can be fun but I know better than to think they can offer friendship in the same way a male can. They aren't wired the same way, they have their ingrained female agendas they follow. Its no fault of their own but it precludes friendship in the sense that males conceive it.
And the self-perpetuating cycle continues. I know I'm preaching to a deaf audience here, but there's no "ingrained female agenda". However, your belief in this silliness, coupled with an eagerness to highlight any example of female behavior that fits the stereotypes you're comfortable with, pretty much guarantees that you can't have female friends while simultaneously explaining why. It's like if you're driving down the road and you see a double-parked car with the driver inside. "I'll bet it's a woman driver," you say to yourself as you go by. If it is, you pat yourself on the back with a "See? I knew it... women drivers." If it isn't, the whole experience doesn't count and is wiped from your memory so as not to tarnish your pre-conceived stereotypes.
You can't say "women are X" any more than you can say "men are X" or "Asians are X" or "children are X" or "homeowners are X". Maybe some women are X, maybe a lot of the women you grew up with were X. More likely, it feels good to generalize about groups of people, particularly people who have some kind of power over you, so every example you see (and popular media is doing a fantastic job of showcasing and encouraging these stereotypes) of a woman who's X becomes proof of the rule to you, even if you don't know a damn thing about her except for the minimal and superficial impression you got. Anyway, I don't have anything to prove. I'm glad for the female friends I have had and the time I was able to spend with them, even if the very concept has some of you up in arms like someone's threatening to shoot your dog.
